That's another good point, Stephanie. In addition to the various end points in the gender spectrum (whether someone is a fetish CDer, identity CDer, bigender, or TS), there are the trajectories from point zero to the end points to consider. So a wife starting out with her husband who only dresses at home on Saturday nights with no wig and no forms, might feel uncomfortable reading so many posts about CDers going out in the mainstream who shave, grow their nails, and wear forms and pads. But in a few years she might well be attending events with her husband dressed who has come to do all of these things and who is no closer to "wanting to be a woman who wants men" than before.
