The curse is how it complicates my life. I struggle with being accepted by both males and females. There has been a silver lining in that I better understand women and myself. As much as I wish it would go away, my feminine side helps to balance me out. In the long run, life without Jennifer would be boring.
I fall into this catagory, definately a gift. BUT, it took me a long time to come to this conclusion and my wife would likely disagree completely.Originally Posted by Cheryl T
Over the years and from time to time, I might answer this question differently. There were times that being a CD might have caused me to be distracted from other more important things. I don't remember ever missing work because of it, but have stopped me from accepting a social function that I otherwise might have been better off to attend. Basically, I am very happy with who I am and think that my duel gender status has helped form many of my traits, emotions, outlook and deeper feelings toward many things...including women in general. So I say it's not a curse, but a gift today.
I'd say curse. I don't want to be like this. It's a waste of time and money to try so hard to look like a pale imitation of what real women look like, and if it weren't for this, I'd probably have some other, more respectable hobby. That being said, having a more feminine personality does have its benefits. I tend to be really good at listening to people, and understanding them. I'm one of the few guys I know who never really had a problem understanding women. (Not that it always helps!) I don't have that typical male urge to get into pissing contests with other guys, and I think that actually makes me look more mature to women. And of course, I don't mind in the slightest if my masculinity is challenged. Oh, you say I have women's hips? Sweet! I should get a new skirt to show them off!
I used to think it was a curse now im 99.9 % ok with what i do ,got tired of the guilt and purging .I truly think in a way we are all gifted no matter how hard this can be
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If you asked me when I was younger, I would have said it was a curse, as it's made my life more difficult than perhaps it would have been if I did not have this 'gender confusion' as my therapist called it. But in the grand scheme of things? There are lots worse things to deal with, and I think we should always look on the bright side of things. After all, I have a good steady job, so I'm not likely to ever be unemployed. I live in a safe place, where random violence isn't going to get me killed (as opposed, say, to Iraq or Afganistan). I'm (relatively) healthy. I have my own home and own two cars. I'm pretty good at my online games. I grew big enough so that I'm not usually a target even when I go into bad areas of the city.
So, a curse? I'd call it an inconvenience. After all, there are millions of lesbians that would give their eye teeth to have access to all the pretty straight women that I do! Eventually, I'll find one that I like, and who likes me too. I'm a patient man. And, I guess, optimistic.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
That's a perfect summary! I would venture out to say that for me, I am accepted by individuals, both male and female. I don't fit in well with groups of people and that can be pretty debilitating at times.
Hi Vir! So...curse is your final answer? or would it take a new skirt to undo the curse? lol :D
I share both your optimism and patience. Both are hard to balance but I think they are interrelated and that does make it easier. you make an interesting point by the reversal reference of lesbians not having the access you do.xoxox
Opposites attract: I think I took this concept of physics a bit toooo personally!! :DHetero, Gay, Lesbian, Bi, TG, TS, TB, BP, BS, ET....I know I fit in there somewhere...but who cares!!! Happiness: lies in self progress, truth, love, and tolerance. I'm Me! No one else can be me but me. Ironic: is how society made me embarrassed to go out in public, and yet the biggest reason I wanna go out is to seek their approval.The fact that girls and guys both CD is an indication to me that there are parallels that exist that allow many of us, at times, to be able to actually feel what it's like to be that opposite sex...in every possible facet. the way they think, feel, react, speak, and more. It's a two way street that many of us intersect down the way. Soooo....Be happy with what you have and SMILE!! Kisses and Hugs to EVERYONE!!!!!
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