I can see those as definitely being a bonus, but strangers I don't think I give two ****s what they think.
If my not being male enough for a stranger is going to be a problem, then there was going to be an issue regardless.
Family is the bigger issue, you can't hide the things I want to do so they will notice and ask questions.
I've said before that it's easier to act and look like I'm "supposed" to, but honestly it's just getting to a stress related boiling point now.
Basically, my needs vs fear.
It's just a matter of how long it takes for me to crack and get things done regardless of potential consequences.
