Quote Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels View Post
Blending in seems to be a common "goal" for the vast majority here when going out en femme. Presumably, they spend a great deal of time on themselves before leaving the house?

If you are one of those "I just want to blend in people", just exactly WHAT does that mean? No one stares or gives you a funny look the whole time out? Or, you don't have to interact or talk with anyone? [Probably the easiest way to give yourself away - your voice]

Or does it simply mean being treated with courtesy and respect?

Or do you want to be TREATED like a Lady?
I think a statement that blending is the goal of the majority is debatable.

Blending is simply something that is much more achievable than passing. Life is much easier when we stop worrying about whether or not we are passing to others. That's too much pressure because there are usually so many things to overcome, some subtle, others not so much. And besides, how does one know if we truly pass as you have no idea what is happening in your wake.

As such, blending is taking into account time, place, event, weather, etc. when going out and about. It means that you are likely to be similar in first glance appearance to most of the women in the venue you are attending. If you survive that first glance without being read as trans, that is a good thing. Second glance even better. Personally, I think I can get by that first glance, sometimes the second but rarely any further without being seen for who I am. And that is perfectly fine with me. It usually results in being treated with courtesy and/or respect.

And as I have said before, blending doesn't mean devoid of style. There are so many modes of absolute feminine expression that can be achieved while still blending in with the other women who are going about their daily business.