Reine, after two people meet, we learn things about each other. I know one thing that aggravates my wife is that if I am really tired, I shake my feet to help me fall asleep. She doesn't like eggs unless they are scrambled. She hates seafood, yet, I'm from an island where that is all we ate! All of these things are preferences and we all learn things about each other the other tried to hide. It's not betrayal, it's developing a relationship as long as the issues are talked about. What you must ask yourself is how much do you love your partner? If they got hooked on drugs, would you help them or just give up on them and leave? What about a disease? What about finding out they were really a man/woman? I can tell you I would deal with any of those things in a heart beat because I love my wife. You deal with things you don't want to because these problems arise in relationships. They just do. No matter who you are married to. Sure, if abuse or cheating occurs, that's different as it is deemed by the churches who founded marriage as wrong. This is just a different kind of problem...that really isn't a problem when you think about it. He doesn't beat you, stay out all night drinking or getting high, or cheat on you. He just likes to be himself. Unlike the others, this is easy. Take him into a room. If you approve, say you do. If you don't, say you don't, and would prefer not to see him like that. It's that easy. If that isn't respected, then sure, draw the line. Highly doubt it will happen though because he knows he upset you. I just don't see betrayal fitting into ANY situation we are in just from the dressing alone. Betrayal is promising one thing, and doing another. That doesn't apply here to me.
