Quote Originally Posted by Sandra View Post
First of all we do not find you a threat, geez why would we.

For a lot of women they only know about crossdressers from how society views you ie all cders are gay, they don't understand the ins and outs of what a crossdresser is and don't bother to find out and educate themselves about the community. For those who do, the internet is a poor source of information due to it being linked to porn. Of course there is those who do try but still cannot come to terms with this, and that is fine we can't all be the same, but at least those women tried.
On the gay theme... someone at my place of work is openly 'out' and has been for about a year. He comes into work dressed most days (but not always)... make-up, the works BUT no wig and no pretend girly voice. He has expressed that this is who he is and he is accepted by enough work colleagues to make it work OK. The whole situation seems to be normalising well.

I was at a meal recently with some colleagues and the subject of this guy came up. It was a positive conversation but when a close colleague of his said that he was hoping to find a girl now, whereas before it had been difficult for him, the conversation became 'interesting'. At work I am in the closet I hasten to add - just for context.

Is he more or less likely to find a girlfriend if he dresses openly in public?

He is a delightful guy and I hope he finds her... he clearly is being open before the relationship! But it does highlight the OP's point... most people at this meal were astonished that he was looking for a girlfriend... they didn't explicitly state 'gay', but they clearly had some cognitive dissonance going on! BTW at the meal there were 3 guys 2 women and me. Many educated/tolerant guys will accept CDs but the issues may not be so dissimilar...