Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post

Also there's nothing more discouraging for a GG who likes a guy, than to discover he only wants to spend time acting like her other girlfriends who have no romantic interest in her.

… BUT, if the GG has NO romantic interest in a CDer, then there won't be any issues!

… AND, some GGs who like a CDer and who want him to be attracted to her, will play along thinking that playing girlie together is sexual for the CDer and she hopes he is also interested in HER. But she'll be devastated when she figures out that the CDer is not interested in anything other than dressing and putting on makeup.

In other words, a GG does not want to bond with a lover in the same way that she wants to bond with a girlfriend.
So true and really one on MY pet peeves. I realize that for many CDs this is very similar to when a GG is finding herself in her tweens and teens. That is when GGs share the make up the clothing suggestions, the how to get a guy and what to do with them This site becomes a giant slumber party sometimes. And when a CD is dressed and thinks they are female it really does become less romantic and frankly sometimes sleazy. It is nice when a GG does fill the "girlfriend" niche but why should they? I get so many requests to make a CD over. I can really sympathize with the GGs on this. It isn't like we (and sorry but I am lumping me into this group this time) have nothing better to do than play dress up and make up with you. If "we" (sorry GGs again) wanted to do that we would get jobs as make up artists or Mac sales reps.

Quote Originally Posted by Rebecca Star View Post
Frankly, going on your avatar pic your 100% passable.
However, if you looked like a guy in drag I don't think you'd experience the same reception or hold the same perception... just saying.
Thank you for the wonderful compliment. I love when people say that, it makes me feel so good. But what you see there is a still, a snapshot (OK a posed photo that took at least 5 minutes to set up). I am 6' tall, I have men's shoulders, and there is little doubt when you get within 10 feet of me that I am male. A pretty male but still a male. In fact two of the women kept slipping up all evening and calling me "he". I try very hard not to look like a man in drag, that is another pet peeve for me, the blatant drag queen look. I try and look presentable and classy. The GGs appreciate that part. But trust me, even though they had been drinking...a lot...there was no doubt they knew what was tucked away.