Why do women dislike crossdressers?

[jsunic_1978]

Seriously! I can't imagine why somebody wouldn't want to go out with you! Don't go asking women for their shoes,its just not cool!

But before I read this post I was thinking, perhaps you are expecting to much to quickly. I have been a member of this forum for many years and I have been out for many years. One of the things I remember feeling very lonely. I came out and wanted it all. Friends, a sex life, purpose, and I wanted it now! I think when we get comfortable enough to to start telling people about ourselves. We just expect everybody to shrug their shoulders and go OK thats cool no biggie. Meeting the right person takes time. Building relationships takes time.

Maybe you are telling them to soon, or perhaps you are using to direct of an approach. I can't say for sure.

On the other hand there are women who find cross dressers attractive. I have met a couple of tranny chasers of the gg variety over the years. I don't know if they were bi curious, were attracted to the confidence it takes to present female in public, or some other reason. But they do exist. Like Shenanigans had mentioned (before you asked for her shoes! Creeepy!) perhaps you are looking in the wrong places.

Ok, lets see if I replied correctly. I am on here to to figure out why I do what I do as well as asking for some advice. I want to start listening to everything. Thanks everyone for the posts. Maybe being still single, Itll be best to just get a room and hit some clubs now n then and keep ot to a mim? I just recently came out and maybe Ill slow it down for sure. This is 2012 Unbelievable this is still all brand new to most people.

[DaphneGrey]

If what you are doing isn't working out you might try changing.

Most of my friends today are people I met and developed relationships with as a woman. I had spent a lot of time in bars and shopping etc.. That was well and good for being out. But soon after I began feeling very lonely. I had posted about it asking for advice. ReineD suggested that I do some volunteering as Daphne.

I took her advice and as usual she was right. I volunteered at lgbt center and started meeting people. I joined a progressive church in Brooklyn etc... When I got away from the bar and club scene and spent that time with people I began to see over and over again, friendships began to form.

So you might try taking in a lecture series at a museum, perhaps an art class or something like that.

You had mentioned that you don't know why you do what you do. Well neither do I, but before I was able share Daphne on a deep and true meaningful level. I had to find out who she was and is. That takes time spent as your girl self interacting with other people.

And as others have said loose the chip on your shoulder. What is simply is. I am trans I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it, and fought like hell against it. In many ways it is a real lousy hand to be dealt. I can't be mad if women don't find me attractive, I can't hate teenagers who point and laugh. because if I let all of that get to me, I wouldn't have been able to make friends of any kind in the first place.

I can come across as bitchy and judgmental, if I do I am sorry, but I wanted to add that I get why you are bitter and lonely, I have been there and I understand. It is not an easy place to be. I also think you are pretty courageous and open and honest. I am not judging you, just offering some ideas, things that have worked for me.

[jsunic_1978]

If what you are doing isn't working out you might try changing.

Most of my friends today are people I met and developed relationships with as a woman. I had spent a lot of time in bars and shopping etc.. That was well and good for being out. But soon after I began feeling very lonely. I had posted about it asking for advice. ReineD suggested that I do some volunteering as Daphne.

I took her advice and as usual she was right. I volunteered at lgbt center and started meeting people. I joined a progressive church in Brooklyn etc... When I got away from the bar and club scene and spent that time with people I began to see over and over again, friendships began to form.

So you might try taking in a lecture series at a museum, perhaps an art class or something like that.

You had mentioned that you don't know why you do what you do. Well neither do I, but before I was able share Daphne on a deep and true meaningful level. I had to find out who she was and is. That takes time spent as your girl self interacting with other people.

And as others have said loose the chip on your shoulder. What is simply is. I am trans I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it, and fought like hell against it. In many ways it is a real lousy hand to be dealt. I can't be mad if women don't find me attractive, I can't hate teenagers who point and laugh. because if I let all of that get to me, I wouldn't have been able to make friends of any kind in the first place.

I can come across as bitchy and judgmental, if I do I am sorry, but I wanted to add that I get why you are bitter and lonely, I have been there and I understand. It is not an easy place to be. I also think you are pretty courageous and open and honest. I am not judging you, just offering some ideas, things that have worked for me.

Thank you so much Dafnie your pretty I will take your advice. I never knew GLBT had volunteer stuff. I am sure we will meet bi women at some point. I need to really work on friendships, I understand that. People will like me a lot better ounce I get rid of that chip. I'm starting to like my self more and I am open and honest, so what? What you see is what you get. No surprises, and most women will not know what a good guy they have passed up. for the most part, I am a decent person. I just get frustrated. I cannot let people get to me nor be bitter just because people write me off. You would think women would embrace us. Most of us are not the typical jerk. Thats not my problem if most women prefer that. women are attracted to popularity and the idea that a man can get ANY woman he wants. This is why most women are attracted those guys, figuring shell be the one, but shell just be the next bus. Thats not my problem and Im learning how to let go. Well, I'm trying to. A lot of men do not mind tom boys as long as the women isn't a guy in the bedroom. It would be nice if most women would just think the same way, but they don't. Thats OK. Also, I CANNOT FIGURE OUT THE WOMEN THAT TURN LESBIAN AND BI, WOULD THEY DATE ME, A CROSS DRESSER WHILE IM JEN, NO! THEY JUST WANT GG WOMEN they don't go for nice guys, just other women.