I think dudes get really tied up in the black/white concept of sexuality because of our attitude about it as a society. If they meet a CD (a very good one) or a Pre or Non-op TS and find that they are attracted to her, they are brought to the big "decision" immediately after the discovery of the hidden appendage. If you are attracted to a PERSON who happens to have a, um ...differentiator then it seems like it's totally possible that you could look beyond the offensive part because you are so attracted to this PERSON. For example, I'm attracted to men who have a certain level of fitness but I would be able to look past a bit of a belly if I really liked him. Am I looking for a guy with a beer gut? Hells no, but if I met someone, and he was awesome in other ways, I could deal with the belly, provided it was manageable.

I think most men could deal with dating a passable "T-girl" under one condition; That nobody else knows. As long as they don't have to explain to their friends, or "come out" to them as a dude who is dating somebody who used to be a dude. I think it would be fine. I also think he wouldn't have any problem getting his freak on if that's the way his girl wanted to roll. ;-)