Amy, I am so sorry to hear of this. This is probably of little comfort, but this is not the first-time an SO has flip-flopped on CDing. When I first told my wife, she was completely cool with it and suggested we go out with me en femme, the next morning she was yelling and threatening divorce. Since then we have had ups and down: sometimes she's very supportive other times we have a huge fight about it. I can say that you did the right thing by telling her now, the one thing that still nags at my wife is that I waited over a year after marriage to come out to her. Note, this is not meant to be a slam on SOs. There is a great thread called something like "Now I like it, now I don't" which explains the phenomenon from a GG's perspective.
With you ex, I suggest that you continue to be friendly, but don't make yourself too available. If your relationship was truly strong, she may find herself missing you and be willing to come back and reach some compromise on the CDing. I would also caution you against getting to wrapped up in the Pink Fog bandwagon just because no one is holding you back. Take care of yourself, first and foremost, but do so deliberately and not recklessly. After a sufficient cooling off period, dive back into the dating pool. I can tell from your posts that you are a kind and thoughtful person. Any woman would be lucky to have you.
