I understand what you are saying Linda, but most GG's don't even talk that way or even in corresponding.
As far as the hugs thing goes, it's interesting that you would not hug a male friend or even a close male friend, maybe even a relative? It's quit common now a days..
I don't like to hug guys because I don't want them to feel my bra straps.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.