I certainly understand what you are saying; it is the same thing that most of married cd'ers hear from our wives as well. You said that you think that he is sexy in a suit and you really wish that he would return to being that person and not the person who he is now. I believe that we are pretty much the same person who we were when we first met and got married. We have evolved somewhat, not into another person but to the person who we were all along. We are all like a slab of rock who the artist chips and fashions into a beautiful sculpture. He was there all along, it is just now that all the rough edges have been chiseled away.
Not speaking for your husband, I can say that when I am dressed as Annie, even wearing only a few feminine articles of clothing, I feel sexy. I have a picture of what I think is attractive, alluring and somewhat sexy in a woman and I simply want to present myself in a similar manner to my partner/wife. I am not turned off by seeing two women together as partners and although my wife doesn't necessarily share with my same sex acceptance, she allows me to express myself to her as my true self. Over time she has come to realize that I am the same person but I just dress differently at times.
In time, I hope you will accept him and understand that he still loves you the same way when he said " I do" whether in a man's suit or a woman's outfit.
