Quote Originally Posted by marym View Post
While a few of us may be most comfortable presenting in a mixed male/female mode, as noted in a couple of posts, I think they need to be more aware of the tension this places on the CD's SO. While a full femme presentation can pass and not attract attention, a mixed male/female appearance is nearly certain to attract attention - and that attention would be quite negative in many cases. If you as an individual are willing to accept this, or you are fortunate to have a wife and friends who don't mind, more power to you. But I don't think we can reasonably expect a partner to have such attentions imposed on them. Please cut some slack for a well-meaning SO who is trying to adjust to difficult circumstances.

Miriam
You are correct that a mixed-male-female presentation (e.g. a male wearing a a combination of male and female items) may attract attention, but a person that is fully crossdressed that does not pass will attract even more attention. In my opinion, the mixed-male-female presentation can be more readily accepted because it is the same as what many women (TomBoys) do today by incorporating men's fashion into their overall look. These women are NOT trying to pass as a man yet they are accepted when incorporating men's fashion items. Men can do the same by incorporating women's fashion items into their presentation without attempting to pass as a woman. Why doesn't everyone see this?