I think its ok to keep dating her for a while before you make a full disclosure. She's picking up some cues and probably won't be totally surprised when you give her the whole story. And I do think that its important for her to see the whole of you before she gets fixated on one aspect.
Thanx Kim, this is exactly why i was so upset with the first gal, she had time to see me for me but her family did not and went the wrong way at warp speed.Originally Posted by kimdl93
And their bad influence on her because of it, dug us too deep a hole to come out of.
This gal has seen me in my better male traits (yeah, there are actually a couple), i was there to be strong and comfort her on saturday when she fell apart (she was driving) after the crash.
She has seen pictures of me out in the field doing that hunting thing and we both share a passion for being outdoors, so she knows i have a masculine side, just not one of those sickening macho idiot sides.
I got a funny text a little bit ago, she asked me..... "why r u you?"
I sent back..... "tis magic, maybe soon ill tell ya bout it"
Her reply was just a smiley face.
This sounds a bit like my GF and I. Though in her case, it mattered more to her that I wasn't scared off by her intelect. ( Fat chance! That's one of her best points! )
"Normal is what you get when you average out the weirdness that everybody has." Quote from my SO
Normal is a setting on a washing machine, or another word for average.
The fact that I wear a skirt as a male should not be taken as a comment on what you do, or do not wear, or how you wear it.
I hear ya there dresser, nothing sexier on a woman than a nicely developed intellect, in fact my personal belief is that the smarter the GG the more inclined she is to be accepting/supporting. Afterall, it takes intelligence to see past the artificialities of the binary gender belief.
My girlfriend was raised up in the world of professional dance (irish step, she once toured with the Lord of the Dance and danced with Michael Flately himself), and i think that kind of life opens the mind much moreso than a lady who grew up out on the farm.
Oh and hello out there Teri in Idaho.
Sounds somewhat promising. If you want another way to see what her views are, can Holloween help? Keep us posted with whatever you wish to share and I hope things only get better. The big question is when and only you can get a feel for that.
It sounds like things are moving in the right direction. By that I mean the relationship is being built on honesty and trust. As with so many other threads like this my only additional counsel is to be patient and let her unwrap this puzzle at a speed that is comfortable for her. That is just a necessary level of respect for her at this stage. Just match it with open honesty and see what develops. Best to you both.
Sarah
Being transgender isn't a lifestyle choice. How you deal with it is.
Well 2 plus weeks later and wow, how things have progressed and all for the better.
Our feelings for each other have grown stronger, and i'm now officially out.......yipppeeeee!
And she's totally on board, i guess my early radar readings were wonky. I pretty much told all there is.
I called myself gender variant, that i have felt these gender differences since i was 5, have spent a good deal of my life wishing i had been born female, etc, etc.
Her remarks were basically...."you don't want a sex change do you?", "just don't get in my things is all i care about" and "if i say anything at all it'll prolly be that i'm jealous cuz your so slim".
I told her to let it wander about in her brain, think on it and se sure to ask if she has questions, i'll answer it honestly and fully. I suggested she do some research.
Speaking of which i had her go to wiki and read the definitions on sex and gender.....amazing how many people think gender is male and female.
I also told her that i most likely won't be wanting to fully dress in front of her, that i'd be happy to just feel free to wear women's under things as that is what i'm used to.
I'm of course feeling really pleased about all this, i was afraid i'd spend my life alone and wishing for the love of another.
At least the future looks much brighter from here.
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I have never been happier my love with all of you masculine side and your feminine side.
This warms my girlish heart to see. I'm so happy for both of you right now!
May you have a long and happy life together, each appreciating all the aspects of the other, and always full of love.
- Amy
Amy Gale Ruth Bowersox (nee Tapie) - "Be who you are, and be it in style!"
Member, Board of Trustees, Gender Identity Center of Colorado
aka Amelia Storm - Ms. Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2018-2019, Miss Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2015-2016
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