If you don't explain your "look" to the people you meet up with,then most won't "get it".Even if it is a simple statement such as "I love long skirts..Don't you love the colors of this one?" All that is fine,because you are explaining your presentation. Otherwise,you will be painted as "weird " with the broad brush others face.I don't think it is about cowering in your closet,it is about explaining your look to the "mainstream" world that will help with acceptance.