I never cared for the name "doormat" because it felt manipulative and I like Moxie much better because it leaves the impression of someone who is not going to approach life like she is a victim but I would expand the name to "Mischievous Moxie"
It is so easy to "keep a man" and to "keep a man in love with you" but you have to be willing to get out of your own way to do it.
A woman draws a man to her by what she does with her own life that than attracts him to her.
How well have you been taking care of your own life? How well do you take care of your health? Your physical appearance? Personal development?
I look around at people who have given up on themselves and wonder what happened for them to lose their passion for life, a life that someday will be over with no gurantee of another.
Why are they killing themselves with junk food, alcohol and drugs?
Why do they spend there days in front of a televison instead of going for walks or reading a book?
The secret to being loved is to not stop loving yourself but many never even make an effort to begin learning how to love themselves because to love yourself is a "Hell of alot of WORK".
It means getting out of bed and going for a run before the sun is up if thats what it takes to become healthy again.
Going back to school to get that degree that was never finished.
Learning to not say anything if you cannot say something nice.
Throwing things out that you no longer need and not buying things that you don't
Love is about self discipline as an aspect of self respect.
People waste so much time trying to get others to love them and while they are doing this they completely forget to learn and practice what it means to love yourself.
Sorry for sticking my nose in your business but people have so much power to change their lives if they would only use it.
