I suppose I got out by never really being in.

Growing up five minutes from Hollywood with family that are theatre people and more wacky than I am gave me complete freedom and little supervision.

Like you I'm small and never had much body hair with facial features that are androgynous and a first name that can be used either for a boy or girl.

I have always loved the bagpipes and played in the high school band so started out by wearing a kilt so spent almost all of my high school years wearing a "skirt" of sorts and I still have a strong preference for skirts that look like kilts. My legs do not look manly so I did get teased but my sense of humor usually kept me out of trouble by making a joke out of it.

I was in theatre all through high school and in college along with music and other artistic interests so you are expected to be weird anyway so for me it was a natural progression because there was little to no resistance to doing your own thing.

After high school I hung out with drag performers and most of my friends were TG or somewhere on the LGBT spectrum because I could not "get" people who were heterosexual even though I am heterosexual in that I'm not homosexual or bi but indifferent.

For me I suppose I came out when I first sexualized the dressing with short skirts and heels, until than I was just sitting on the fence not being one gender or the other. That is when you start playing with fire so risk getting burned.

I have an intense interest in fashion because pretty things pull at me so strongly not in a sexual sense but because I just love pretty things so who would not want to crossdress when you are like this?

Of course when you start changing your body that is a whole different game but it does make the clothes fit better.

For me it has been a evolution as movement into a becoming and the more I became the more I understood who I am so I have just been walking a path with no real idea of where it would take me until recently when the "knowing" and "me" became one and the same thing.

I like your approach to coming out by talking to people. That was very smart in my opinion.