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    I'm going to bed. .....It's 11:30 pm, and I've had too much wine.

    Some of us don't want the parameters of gender to describe ourselves. Putting ourselves in the gender binary is too constricting for some of us....me especially. I'll stick with being gender fluid.

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    Being Transgendered must be H***.. if you find yourself caught between being a cd and a tg..wait.. can you really be a tg if you cd? or are you really a cd mimmicking a tg???? ouch.. as Nathalie said, too much vino.. still..I'm so happy to be a cd..and have to question that!!!!, then to be a tg and wonder about this thread...to question me..or you.. or anyone on who they are.. someday, i can be me.. and you can be you..without question.. someday..

    BTW, Freddie does come up with some good thought processes..
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    Words are dangerous but necessary. We use words to better understand our environment and place in it. The problem with words comes from the labels that continue on even after that which is labeled ceases to exist or never did.

    A transsexual must discover they are a transsexual by learning what a transsexual is and if this is them.

    Before they learn they are TS they may "mistakenly" use other labels to identify themselves based on the behavior they are doing along with what others tell them and their own interpersonal experiences so they may identify as a crossdresser but it will not take long before they realize something else is going on.

    This means that after the fact a TS was never a Crossdresser so was never crossdressing.

    In my opinion a crossdresser is a "man in a dress" if he fully identifies as a man in a dress, which you always have done.

    A TG carries both genders in their brain and expresses them to the degree each is represented. Both are "naturally" expressed so they are not crossdressers because when they are expressing the female half they are only dressing.

    A TS carries only one gender in their brain and the opposite gender cannot be "naturally" expressed so they never were a man in a dress as "crossdressing".

    A TS is a TG but a TG is not necessarily a TS.

    Your words usually leave me with the impression that it is important to you that people see you as a man so that is your gender identity.

    On this forum there seems to be many "men" in dresses but there are also many who are a mixture of both genders or female in gender but in the unfortunate position of being male bodied.

    It is simply that the brain sex (gender) develops differently than the body sex as "sex"

    Men in dresses as crossdressers always show a sensitivity that is greater than most men that draws them to the crossdressing to develop and experience this sensitivity along with possible fetish interests because their sexuality is affected by this sensitivity but they do lose their identity as men because it was fixed at birth.

    This sensitivity is important because I think that is the starting point that is created in the womb so you are born sensitive that is also in TG and TS but goes much farther for TG and certainly TS.

    This sensitivity runs through the whole spectrum.

    Those whose identity at birth was fixed as female in a male body (TS) must find a solution with movement in one direction within the limits of their options and will only keep the male attributes out of necessity, not choice.

    Those whose identity is not fixed (TG) will be fluid in their gender expression so for them the solution and desire is movement between two opposite poles to experience both the male and female self. " The woman within"

    Regardless, it starts in the womb and possibly before and continues to be influenced by environment.

    Its the brain being "gender" and your brain happens to be male and I do not recall ever hearing you talk about the woman within.

    The only thing that stops the brain from being its "gender" is confusion and fear, otherwise it is simply a lack of resources and or opportunity.

    The only way in my opinion to understand this, is to stop seeing the body and start seeing the person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    Splitting off from Marleena’s recent thread, itself splitting off from other discussions, I wish to ask this technical question: If you’re really transgendered, either mentally or physically, how can you say that you’re a crossdresser? It seems to me that if you’ve gone from one gender to the other, as the word transgender implies, and, in the case of MtF, you now identify as a woman, wouldn’t you just be naturally wearing clothes appropriate to your gender, and not crossdressing per se?
    Freddy, I know you will disregard this reply, but nonetheless I offer it for those who do wish to understand

    Being transgender does not imply that you have crossed irreversibly from one gender to another, although it can also encompass that aspect as well.

    The vast majority of transgender people cross the gender divide and re-cross it at various times all their life. Just like a transatlantic traveller will normally go home after his journey so cross-dressers who are Transgender will express some femininity for a period then will return to their role as a man.

    Those of us who are transsexual either have transitioned or are in transition from one gender expression to the other. So although we also come under the transgender umbrella, we no longer cross-dress as we wear the dress appropriate to our true gender 24/7/365.25

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    Going “back and forth” is indicative of crossdressing. The prefix “trans-“ indicates something else, and the misuse (in this instance) of that prefix is what I’m trying to get at.
    Instead of "get at" it would be more accurate for you to say "achieve" - you are the person trying to abuse the prefix "trans" to mean something that goes one way and can never return. That is simply not it's definition

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    which one am I? CD or TG?
    I could have quoted more of your thread, but this indicates the confusion that Freddy is trying to sow. TG is not identical to TS

    You can be transgender without being transsexual so the question is like asking "is that round green thing on my plate a pea, or is it a vegetable?"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    If you’re really transgendered, either mentally or physically, how can you say that you’re a crossdresser?
    The act of "crossdressing" is what a transgendered person does.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    It seems to me that if you’ve gone from one gender to the other, as the word transgender implies, and, in the case of MtF, you now identify as a woman, wouldn’t you just be naturally wearing clothes appropriate to your gender, and not crossdressing per se?
    You're correct. If your birth sex is male and you do not consider yourself to be crossdressing when you wear women's clothing, then your brain gender is female. You are, however, a transsexual since it is likely that you will make an effort to alter your birth sex (male), through hormones and possibly SRS, to align your body to your brain gender and as much as possible, physically approximate the opposite sex (female). Hence the term "transsexual". This is pretty much a one way trip, unlike the journeys that other transgenders make who do not change their birth sex but who instead crossdress one day and not the next.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    I identify as a male, yet I wear women’s clothing on occasion, so I am a MtF crossdresser. I am not interested in becoming a woman, or living my life as a woman, so I cannot, by definition, be called transgendered.
    No matter how you identify, the fact is that you do cross a gender barrier by adopting the presentation of the opposite sex. And from your other posts, I gather that you also enjoy adopting the opposite sex's gender role on occasion. In addition, you've often said that you do not feel any affinity or connection with the members of your birth sex and you feel a greater affinity to females. Something motivates you to do this, Freddy, even if you do not wish to alter your sex since you are not transsexual. It is up to you to call it what you will, but you are crossing (trans) some (gender) barriers, in comparison to the birth males who have absolutely NO interest in dressing like, thinking like, or behaving like a woman, nor to they feel aligned with the female gender in any way.
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    I agree with you in that if you truly believe that you are transgender in the way that you are both male and female then to your way of thinking it is not logical to think that you cross dress as you are female inside , so it is more of a word or if you must " a label" that society puts on you to describe what they can see which is often quite a bit different than what you see/think , and to be honest how would they know what was going on in your mine so they will see a cross dresser , so by my way of thinking if you are TG then no you are not cross dressing , it is this" Why" you are dressed in the clothes that you are which holds the answer again to this question . I know I am a bit mad but still think that men in skirts do not cross dress, cross dressers are not transgendered and transgendered are not cross dressing but the biggest part of society will see it all as one hence this umbrella thing , maybe they should make an umbrella with different coloured segments in it and you just stand under the colour that most describes you , mind you that is going to be a bit awkward if you are letting someone share you umbrella as to which section they get :D
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    I accept the definition of TG to be encompassing of a variety of behaviors, as per Shelly's dictionary reference. It's a big tent that includes many behaviors.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaraPeterson View Post
    Only a bunch of women could argue to death a subject like this; therefore, you all (we all) must be transgendered, at least in our thinking mechanisms.
    What a nice compliment. Thank you!
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    Freddy,

    Do you know what the difference is between a Crossdresser who claims to not be TG

    And a Crossdresser who identifies as TG?

    Ill give you one hint:

    closet0.jpg

    So your a crossdresser huh? Me too.

    Reading threads and getting involved here over the years has taught me something about our community. This is my perspective: Crossdressers argue the TG definition because it implies they must be responsible for their own closets.

    There is a constant flow of people who come here for knowledge as to why they are who they are. When they show up here, looking to others for acceptance and guidance...or that search for the truth they long for within themselves, all our community can truly be responsible for is this sacred argument amongst ourselves.

    Why would you be so afraid of the label? Cmon Freddy... we know you have an active imagination....So tell us what is so bad about being labeled in a group with us?
    Do you need that separation from the group to keep your own identity in tune with who you are? For what purpose? To what end? We are your brothers and sisters but yet you stand at the edge of the field and tell us your a part of us? Why not stand with us? Why not bring your little light of diversity into the group and strengthen us as a whole? Why not?....Why hold on to the perpetuation of your own closet.....

    Is it fear? Why do we scare you?

    ....Just know this: If your heart ever leads you over to our side of the closet, we will be here ready and willing to embrace your identity, after all, your our brother in which we "vest" with......

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaraPeterson
    Only a bunch of women could argue to death a subject like this; therefore, you all (we all) must be transgendered, at least in our thinking mechanisms. A forum full of manly types would have put the subject to rest long ago with a short list of black and white definitions from which they would not move.
    [SIZE="2"]On the contrary, I detect a LOT of male “chip on the shoulder” thinking and reactions in this part of the forum. Being a male (pardon me if I keep bringing this up), you are correct to say that males will not move from whatever defensive position they have constructed – as such, at this point I have resigned myself to achieving little with these essay-length explorations into the terminology we have come to embrace. Despite this, I enjoy the give-and-take, both negative and positive…[/SIZE]

    Quote Originally Posted by KellyJameson
    On this forum there seems to be many "men" in dresses but there are also many who are a mixture of both genders or female in gender but in the unfortunate position of being male bodied. It is simply that the brain sex (gender) develops differently than the body sex as "sex."
    [SIZE="2"]I’m pleased to see you, Kelly, and I always appreciate your well-reasoned prose! As you can see, I’m trying, once again, to ascertain “what happened” to the language we have all agreed upon, or, more specifically, why certain terms rise above others in the queer hierarchy. I happen to agree with your assessment...[/SIZE]

    Quote Originally Posted by Rianna Humble
    Instead of "get at" it would be more accurate for you to say "achieve" - you are the person trying to abuse the prefix "trans" to mean something that goes one way and can never return. That is simply not it's definition.
    [SIZE="2"]I never disregard anybody’s intelligent reply, so you’re wrong there. That’s what it (trans-) does mean, or refer to, or imply, and, because of this, I think it’s a little extreme to call ALL MtF crossdressers transgendered. I know the term has been accepted for better or worse, and my pleas for clarification will go unheeded. However, let’s not derail the topic. If you’re transgendered, surely you’re doing something other than, or more evolved than, JUST crossdressing. As for me trying to achieve something with this increasingly pointless exercise, let me just remind you that I, the crossdresser, always do things just for fun. I’m just trying to speak up for us non-TG MtF crossdressers among us from time to time…[/SIZE]

    Quote Originally Posted by ReineD
    No matter how you identify, the fact is that you do cross a gender barrier by adopting the presentation of the opposite sex.
    [SIZE="2"]Yes, that’s a good way to put it, but I would add that a crossdresser only goes so far with his (or her) presentation of the opposite sex, i.e. as far as they wish to go, given the circumstances of their emotional state and/or what they wish to accomplish. I feel that TG’s transcend (another trans- word!) this by doing something they MUST do, while I, by definition, am less seriously involved. I am definitely hovering near this “gender barrier” you refer to, even crossing it at times, but I never get too far away from “home.”[/SIZE]

    Quote Originally Posted by DonniDarkness
    Cmon Freddy... we know you have an active imagination....So tell us what is so bad about being labeled in a group with us?
    [SIZE="2"]Well, I don’t like “group” thinking, or group anything, probably because I was excluded from groups as a child, plus I come from a long line of free-thinkers, but that’s neither here nor there. I suppose, if someone’s going to label me, I would prefer to be labeled accurately, and not be forced to adhere to this “one size fits all” way of thinking. However, that’s also off topic – this is a discussion allegedly about TG individuals perhaps doing something beyond crossdressing, yet here we are, gathered together under this imaginary “umbrella” that Kim has referred to…

    In regards to this topic, I’ve been thinking about a meeting I attended many years ago in Boston, MA. I had just won an artist’s fellowship, so I was obliged to attend a get-together of recipients in the state council’s large conference room. Topics relating to the artistic “community” were raised, including the political ideals espoused in this overtly liberal setting (Massachusetts). I’m pretty open-minded, but I felt somewhat alone and detached (and out of place) amongst my more engaged (and worldly) peers. I learned that I was expected to be something more than just an artist – I had to hold the imaginary “banner” of artistic expression high overhead, as others had done, and align myself with a certain way of communal thinking. Frankly, I would rather just paint my pictures, thank you, and leave it at that…

    Here’s another odd way of looking at it (the current topic, I mean). Let’s say I like to take off all my clothes from time to time, just for fun – do I have to label myself a naturist to discuss issues of nudity with other unclothed hedonists, and maybe gather together with them to feel better about myself, even referring to myself as a naturist to fit in with the others? I feel good NOW, for crying out loud – can’t I just be nude and happy on my own terms? Why seek out fellow pleasure-seekers to begin with? Well, it gets lonely at times out here in the “forest,” doesn’t it?

    I appreciate all of the responses so far (even Lorileah's)...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    Going “back and forth” is indicative of crossdressing. The prefix “trans-“ indicates something else, and the misuse (in this instance) of that prefix is what I’m trying to get at. Look it up if you don’t believe me. YOU make a huge assumption that I, as a MtF crossdresser, must somehow be transgendered…
    Well, we certainly have "gone back on forth" on this one, have we not? I'll stick with the definition that several have given and that I think is pretty standard -- TG is a spectrum that includes us all, from occasional panty (or boxer, to include FTM) wearers to post-op.

    So .. about "trans", let's see. I take a transcontinental trip from here in Florida. I can either stay on the West Coast permanently, or buy a roundtrip ticket, or spend some time in CA and later come back to Florida if I like, or do all but the former as often as I like (within the limits of my credit card..). "Trans" as in transgendered (as opposed to TS) doesn't imply direction, or frequency, or permanence -- only "across". At least to me.

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    I think discussing beliefs is how we come to the understanding of how we FEEL. Do you feel more like a woman when you dress or do you still feel like a man?

    For years I was puzzled and confused about this.. As I explored it further I realized that in order to feel complete I need to express the feminine part of me. I do feel transgendered but I can go back and forth, albeit in an anrogynous manner. So whether I crossdress to appear more male or more female, I still crossdress and I do so because I feel transgendered.

    Sometimes our intellect can get in the way of just being and feeling and accepting ourselves no matter what theories come up.

    So if you feel transgendered, I think you are. If you don't feel it, then you probably are not at this point. You may feel it later, however, which sugests a continuum of feelings and behaviours.
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    Hi, Freddy! I for one have greatly enjoyed this discussion. People always say they dislike labels, but as I've pointed out before, labels can be very useful because in discussing them, by figuring out how accurate or inaccurate they may be, you sharpen your understanding of the subject matter. Eventually, you adopt new labels that better reflect reality. And then you can start arguing about them, and you further refine your understanding of reality. The problem we currently have is that we have umpteen varieties of TG people (oops! Sorry! People of our sort) and we're trying to fit them into three categories--CD, TG and TS. The divisions are bursting at the seams.

    It's precisely discussions like these that have taught me so much about TGism (oops! Sorry! People of our sort). In recent times, I've come out to lots of people--most recently my brother and sister--and lots of these people have asked me about TGism and what it all means. I've been in a position to explain lots of things because of what I've learned on this forum.

    For me, use of terms depends on context. When I'm talking to cispeople who aren't well up on the issue, I'll lump CDers under the TG umbrella. I think that's appropriate because we're similar enough that it makes little difference to cispeople. But strictly between you and me, I'd use this term "CDer" differently. That's because you and I are aware of the main difference between us--you identify as male, I identify as female. I think you prefer to avoid applying the term "TG" to yourself, whereas I certainly don't see myself as a CDer.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    I can most accurately be termed a “crossdresser,” because I cross back and forth between the genders via clothing, no big deal, and no further explanation is needed…
    Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
    No matter how you identify, the fact is that you do cross a gender barrier by adopting the presentation of the opposite sex. And from your other posts, It is up to you to call it what you will, but you are crossing (trans) some (gender) barriers, in comparison to the birth males who have absolutely NO interest in dressing like, thinking like, or behaving like a woman, nor to they feel aligned with the female gender in any way.
    These two quotes explain why, at least in conversation with cispeople, I'll include CDers under the TG umbrella. "Trans" means "across"--which implies crossing the gender line. CDers do cross that line with their clothing, so that's what makes them trans. But of course, this assumes that we're treating the terms "gender" and "sex" as interchangeable terms, which of course they're not in other contexts, so there's still that bit of confusion. But don't worry: we'll get it all sorted out eventually.

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    Looks like that once more, two definitions of the same word are in conflict.

    One group is breaking the word into syllables and applying Latin type interpolation by defining each part of the the word. That definition produces trans (change) gender (male or female). So to them, it means going back and forth between being a dude or woman. This definition relinquishes the word transgender as exclusive to only one elite group - serious cross dressers and maybe some but not all transsexuals. The latter group however, may abhor changing back to birth gender, so they may not wish to be included as trans. That narrows the field down to the middlers, and removes any umbrella connotation.

    While the other group is using the actual intent of the word as it was handed from the psychological gatekeepers. Its a medical term of sorts coined for convenience. That group simply defines the word transgender as "umbrella." They are not breaking the actual word into two pieces and using that as their definition. It covers the whole spectrum.

    The first group isn't actually wrong, they simply shun the medical type connotation in favor of their own definition, which in effect renders transgender ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Monicamaryjay
    I think discussing beliefs is how we come to the understanding of how we FEEL. Do you feel more like a woman when you dress or do you still feel like a man?
    [SIZE="2"]The short answer is that I don’t feel like a woman when I crossdress, because I have no idea how a woman feels. A transgendered person, on the other hand, would feel like a woman, I assume...[/SIZE]

    Quote Originally Posted by TeresaL
    Looks like that once more, two definitions of the same word are in conflict.
    [SIZE="2"]I just wonder why the term transgender has been adopted to include all types of crossdressers, that’s all – wouldn’t gender-shifter, or a similar term, be more apropos? In the spirit of the NHL’s announcement of a new CBA agreement earlier today, I will concede that crossdressing is, or can be, a "transgendered act," and crossdressing itself is a kind of transgendered experience, but I do not become transgendered by wearing women’s clothes, and an insistence on being transgendered has not initiated my urge to crossdress. Trust me, it hasn’t. It happened the other way around, in my case, and awareness about transgender came later. When you crossdress, it’s only natural to wonder about your sexuality (societal pressure, I believe), but my feet are firmly planted in my birth gender, no matter what type of shoes I choose to wear. So, you could say that the MtF crossdresser has feelings about transgender “come along for the ride” when he dresses up, whether he wants them to or not...

    Which leads me to this point – MtF crossdressing is LIKE an amusement park ride, or any ride, a ride of transgendered proportions if you will, but the crossdresser only rides for a while before going home and changing back into a pumpkin (BTW, I get dizzy easily). He has to, because he is not genetically predisposed to stay on the ride 24/7. To some, crossdressing is a pleasant diversion, nothing more and nothing less, so all this expected association with TG takes the bloom off the pretty rose we are trying to admire. To be fair, there are perhaps a million or more shades of grey between a man who only wears panties under his male clothes, and a transgendered individual who lives their life contrary to their birth gender all the live long day. I think it’s a bit farfetched to include the hobbyist or fetishist crossdresser under the imaginary transgendered umbrella, IMHO, and unfair to TG’s, I might add...

    I do recognize the reason why this umbrella has been created, of course – people want to belong to something, or have their lifestyle recognized and understood, hopefully to have their rights as human beings protected, same as any other group. That’s all well and good IF you’re genuinely transgendered, but, speaking for myself, I don’t fit in. I would be very uneasy sitting in a room amongst a group of actual TG’s. Why? Well, there’s nothing I could talk about with them. We may all be dressed relatively the same, but for different reasons, plus I don’t have to be dressed as a woman, while they, by definition, MUST dress as women (they're transgendered, remember?). That would make me very nervous. I mean, I can’t say something like the crossdressers.com standard, “What color panties are you wearing?” because I wouldn’t pose such a question to a woman, or a group of women. I am a gentleman, you know. Maybe you didn’t know that. Anyway, they (the TG’s) either are women, or they believe themselves to be women, while I am just dressing as a woman, i.e. crossdressing. I could, and probably would, ask another MtF CD about his/her chromatic choice of panties, no doubt expecting a girly giggle or two, but that’s different. See what I’m talking about?

    I’ll confine my weird analogies to LGBT, OK? If a woman kisses another woman now and then, does that mean she’s a lesbian? Not necessarily, right? If a man has a homosexual experience, does it automatically follow that he is a gay male? It depends, I suppose, but bear with me. Just because I’m a male, yet I wear women’s clothing on occasion, doesn’t mean that I’m transgendered. Oh, I might be, or I might want to be recognized as transgendered for one reason or another, but some of us just crossdress for the sake of crossdressing – the author of this piece is one of them, and I know there are others out there, somewhere beyond the fringe of the imaginary umbrella...

    I’ll tell you what starts discussions like this – someone (no names, please) will say something like, “ALL X must be Y, and we can forget about Z!” This happened over on that “Gender and Sex” thread the other day, and such stubborn pronouncements of this nature always make me respond with multiple paragraphs. That in turn spawns another thread, with more verbiage and TG rhetoric like, “Oh yeah, as a matter of fact X IS always Y!” leading to this thread, which I would prefer not to write, truth be told, but somebody has to question this stuff and initiate discussion for "ordinary" crossdressers. A space has been provided to do just that. I appreciate everyone who has taken the time to understand the basic premise I have outlined. I try to word these things very carefully, which means that I DO NOT mean “achieve” when I write “get at,” OK? Give me a break, and please give a break to all the crossdressers among the TG’s...

    PS - We've only just begun...
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    Well, in any case my friend, I don't think you can argue if Dr. Frank N Furter was trans or not as he sang: "I'm just a sweet transvestite from transsexual Transylvania", but I digress........
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    I consider myself to be transgendered, there is a wide spectrum in the transgendered community with many nich's. we all fit in some where in that spectrum, I was born male, yet I identify more as female, I dont want srs, however I prefer to dress and live as a woman, I am more comfortable in my skin when dressed as a woman than I am dressed as a man. for me I am crossdressing when I am dressed as a man now, I used to feel I was crossdressing when wearing dresses, but over the years crossdressing has evolved the other way. Being transgender and being Transexual are different beings altogether, you are one or the other, pick your side.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    [SIZE="2"]The short answer is that I don’t feel like a woman when I crossdress, because I have no idea how a woman feels. A transgendered person, on the other hand, would feel like a woman, I assume...[/SIZE]
    Just want to point out that a transgendered person also does not know what it feels like to be anyone other than who he or she is. It's just a matter of using two different words "male who crossdresses" or "transgender" to describe the same condition.


    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
    [SIZE="2"]I just wonder why the term transgender has been adopted to include all types of crossdressers, that’s all – wouldn’t gender-shifter, or a similar term, be more apropos? [/SIZE]
    There was a need to come up with a term that recognized the 3%-5% of people who cross the gender boundaries (no matter to what degree) from people who have no wish to do this. "Transgender" seemed the most descriptive, I suppose.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
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    In the spirit of the NHL’s announcement of a new CBA agreement earlier today, I will concede that crossdressing is, or can be, a "transgendered act," and crossdressing itself is a kind of transgendered experience, but I do not become transgendered by wearing women’s clothes, and an insistence on being transgendered has not initiated my urge to crossdress. Trust me, it hasn’t.
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    Again, I think you are confusing the term "transgender" with "transsexual". Transgender does not mean that a person feels they were born in the wrong body.

    What is your definition of "transsexual" and are you among the people who take "transgender" to mean some sort of middle ground between "crossdresser" and "transsexual"? It isn't. See the point above.
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    For historical purposes, the term transgender was primarily used (and invented) to describe cross dressers. In 1965, Owen used it to distinguish cross dressers from transsexuals (on the point that transvestites were not primarily acting for reasons of sexuality). The term was used later by Prince again to differentiate cross dressers in 1969. It was apparently a term in common usage as an umbrella term by the mid 70s. However, understanding of the whole area has vastly grown since those days, so there's a wide range falling into the transgender rubric.

    Really, though, at a certain point the term came to mean what it means now because there was a decision to renormalize language used. It used to be that "normal" and "abnormal" were used in certain views of gender behavior. There was regular gender behavior and transgender behavior. So, the terms were set into their more modern form as "cisgender" and "transgender," which have come to common usage. Cisgender behavior concerns matching birth sex and gender behavior. Transgender is anything that does not conform, which is culturally relative. Now, sometimes people don't like this kind of renaming, but that's what it means.

    So, really, it's just a way of not using abberrant or abnormal in discussion; instead, the words express that the behavior is different and potentially valid within its own context.

    The trick about this whole discussion is that I think there is an underlaying topic that many people _are_ interested in, but it gets lost by associating transgender with transsexualism. I think people are asking the question of whether one can be 100% male (whatever that is) and still express cross dressing. Then there's the question of what being "male" and "female" really means. Is there something else? Why do some people differentiate themselves into two personas, but other fuse them? That's the discussion that I think would be more interesting, and which I think is really under the surface in all of these discussions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JadeEmber View Post
    So, really, it's just a way of not using abberrant or abnormal in discussion; instead, the words express that the behavior is different and potentially valid within its own context.
    Thanks for the history lesson. If I were a crossdresser, I'd much rather be referred to as "transgender" than "abnormalgender".
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    Freddy some information from an expert in the field Ann Vitale, below.

    Also keep in mind that in the MTF category CDer's are the majority here. You don't have to feel abandoned here.

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    CATEGORY 3. Crossdressing vs Transsexualism



    1. What is difference between a male cross dresser and a man wanting to be a woman?

    I have never met a genetic male who has gone on to transition to the female gender role that did not start out as a cross dresser. However, it does not mean that every genetic male that cross dresses will go on to transition. Keep in mind that cross dressing is a temporary way for a genetic male to experience femaleness. For some genetic males that short period of experiencing the feminine complements their sense of being male. They may make some minor modifications of their body to enhance their feminine appearance when dressed such as beard and body hair removal but they have no difficulty holding on to their core sense of being male.

    Genetic males who eventually go on to transition permanently to the female gender role (transsexuals) on the other hand, cross dress to ease gender expression deprivation. Dressing is serious business for these individuals. It is only during these cross dressing periods that they can find a sense of wholeness. Unlike the cross dresser described above, transsexuals have little or no love for their alienated sense of masculinity and they are more then willing to give up its influence on their lives via hormones and surgery.

    7. What is the difference between someone who identifies as "transgender" and someone who identifies as "transsexual"?
    The term "transgender" was coined by Dr. Virginia Prince in the mid 1970's to differentiate those individuals who wanted to live in the opposite gender role without surgery from those that wanted surgery. Those individuals who wish or have had sex reassignment surgery were then and still are referred to as transsexuals. However, over the years the term "Transgender" has been modified through popular usage to be an umbrella term covering everyone who has some propensity to spend at least some time expressing themselves in the gender role opposite of that to which they have been assigned.

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    8. Is the term "transsexual" politically correct, why or why not? And when did this change take place?
    The term "transsexual" is not only politically correct it is the preferred term to be used in referring to individuals who use hormonal and surgical means to permanently alter their appearance to match their internal sense of gender.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeresaL View Post
    Looks like that once more, two definitions of the same word are in conflict.

    One group is breaking the word into syllables and applying Latin type interpolation by defining each part of the the word. That definition produces trans (change) gender (male or female). So to them, it means going back and forth between being a dude or woman. This definition relinquishes the word transgender as exclusive to only one elite group - serious cross dressers and maybe some but not all transsexuals. The latter group however, may abhor changing back to birth gender, so they may not wish to be included as trans. That narrows the field down to the middlers, and removes any umbrella connotation.

    While the other group is using the actual intent of the word as it was handed from the psychological gatekeepers. Its a medical term of sorts coined for convenience. That group simply defines the word transgender as "umbrella." They are not breaking the actual word into two pieces and using that as their definition. It covers the whole spectrum.

    The first group isn't actually wrong, they simply shun the medical type connotation in favor of their own definition, which in effect renders transgender ...

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    I think you got it wrong. It is not changing back and forth when you break down the word. It is change of one to the other, not going back and forth although it can mean going back in forth it is not necessarily so. So this definition easily fits either crossdressers or transexuals.
    All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marleena View Post
    From A Vitale:
    Genetic males who eventually go on to transition permanently to the female gender role (transsexuals) on the other hand, cross dress to ease gender expression deprivation. Dressing is serious business for these individuals. It is only during these cross dressing periods that they can find a sense of wholeness. Unlike the cross dresser described above, transsexuals have little or no love for their alienated sense of masculinity and they are more then willing to give up its influence on their lives via hormones and surgery.
    Another thing worth mentioning, that I've frequently read in the TS section: TSs reach a point where the crossdressing simply is not enough, in fact it does not relieve the gender dysphoria, it makes it seem worse since the dressing is a sore reminder of the body/brain-gender mismatch.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
    Another thing worth mentioning, that I've frequently read in the TS section: TSs reach a point where the crossdressing simply is not enough, in fact it does not relieve the gender dysphoria, it makes it seem worse since the dressing is a sore reminder of the body/brain-gender mismatch.
    I really did not need to hear that.......
    All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?

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    Almostalady, sorry ... just repeating what I've read.

    Maybe not everyone goes through this and maybe this has to do with the severity of gender dysphoria.
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