Quote Originally Posted by Jamie001 View Post
I disagree. We may need to hide our dressing when at work, but when not at work we should dress as we choose. We should never give folks power of our personal lives when we are not at work. If we give them power, then we have truly lost our identity and can never be at peace with ourselves.
Thanks for all the support I received, and especially this comment! And I even appreciate those whose comments did not seem as supportive, I know they were willing to help in their own way.

I wanted to share a little bit of what I am trying to do in the world through my dressing. I dress genderfluid because it is an expression of me. But I am willing to push through some crap from the world because of the vision I have for the world. I have chosen to be all the way out. I do not dress at work (it's a good place for male mode anyway) but I do not hide my identity from anyone. The fact that I am a socially involved person who does big things in my community, and has lots of friends, and goes out socially in a number of venues, means that my genderfluidity is affecting the norm where I live. I give space for others to stretch gender boundaries, many in less radical ways, and have it not feel as risky. I am a role model for younger folks who may want to stretch gender boundaries. My hope is that what I am doing will help the next generation of gender benders to be accepted and public, and confident in what they do.
I am not sure I would do this just anywhere. But I using the advantage of living in a progressive town, and connected to very progressive subculture, to be a pioneer. Hopefully I am being a pioneer for all of us.