I just wanted to clear something up, Frances.
A young girl becoming aroused by imagining sex with a man is not autogynephiliac even if the girl has a boy body at the time.
I just wanted to clear something up, Frances.
A young girl becoming aroused by imagining sex with a man is not autogynephiliac even if the girl has a boy body at the time.
"Never forget the many ways there are to be human" (The Transsexual Taboo)
"There are those crossdressers whose interest in cross dressing is not only limited to the Erotic, but also extends into the core of who they are. These cross dressers may or may not consider themselves to be transexual. They may or may not feel that they were born a genetic female inside the body of a male: most of those I've spoken with do not have the desire to become physiologically female: they simply feel more comfortable in female clothing and makeup, and spend as much time as possible dressed en femme.
I have spoken to crossdressers who, although they do not wish to go through with a full SRS have come to the point where they are completely comfortable with their female identity, even getting to the point where they live 24/7 as a female, working and socializing while fully feminized"
So its not JUST a fetish. This is me.
Last edited by aalynn88; 01-13-2013 at 12:13 PM.
to me the thing that makes transsexuals different can be thought of from the reverse perspective... if you are not ts, you can have some semblance of a rewarding male life..if you have any kind of meaningful fullfilling male role in the world, one that you enjoy and cherish simply for what it is, then you are not transsexual.... gender is not fluid for transsexuals, it is uncompromising and immutable
the idea that a person would come here to question whether they are ts, be "told" that they are not likely ts and then get upset about it is a very silly thing..and for all the years i've been here i see it over and over again...
the word "just" is not a perjorative unless you wish it to be... I would have traded my kingdom to be "just" a crossdresser...
Being transsexual is not something to aspire too
But I think we can agree, that when someone new or old for that matter posts something inappropriate or in the wrong category, and mostly just because they sincerely don't know, exactly what they don't know, trying to 'correct' them by flaming is not a good idea.
Maybe we need a system of coaches, who can move the discussion with such a person to PM's until they know. Then it will be up to them to agree or not. Flaming at somebody on a thread, amounts to public humiliation if it works, and alienation and perhaps subsequent withdrawal from this site if it does not. The third possibility, is they think flaming and trash talking is normal to this site, and end up being a pain to others here, for quite a while.
Last edited by Beth-Lock; 01-13-2013 at 01:39 PM.
I would have wanted to be born with a like mind and body. It was bad enough to warrant a factory recall, but since the baby factory had shut down, I had to do some after-market modifications. It seems to work fine now. Maintenance is a bit more than it was but its working fine.
Trust me, I DO NOT aspire to be a transexual. I was aspiring to be an anatomically correct female which I now understand, because of the info I recieved on this, the TS forum, is impossible.
You see, i just wanna be able to use the ladies room and in Texas thats illegal!! lol
Last edited by aalynn88; 01-13-2013 at 03:03 PM.
Are you sure about that? It seems in total opposition to your statement
I really think you need to find a competent gender therapist and find out what it is you do want. It seems to me that even after such a long thread, you are not at all clear on that point.
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Oh im clear on the point
I was aspiring to be an anatomically correct female with a male gender. There...get it? Its because I have an autogynephillic disorder. Its not at all in opposition to my original statment. To me, that means exactly the same thing. Man in a womans body and anatomically correct female with male gender.
Last edited by aalynn88; 01-13-2013 at 05:41 PM.
I know. I used the wrong term, sorry.
Lynn, you said earlier that you had looked in the CDing section and you only saw threads relating to the CDing itself. You should start your own thread there and you will see there are many other CDers who feel like you do. Every once in a while someone will start a thread asking the CD members how many would like to be women, and I'd say that half or more than half say that like you, they would. Yet, these members do not post in the TS section, they are not tortured by having to live in a male body, they are not taking steps to change their sex to match their internal genders, except perhaps wanting breasts and softer curves.
This does not describe transsexuals, and it's important to know the difference.
There was even a long running thread once asking which the CDers would prefer, having breasts or a vagina. If memory serves, the responses were split 50/50, with very few people saying "neither".
Last edited by ReineD; 01-13-2013 at 06:05 PM.
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Thanks. I'll do it!
Or maybe I should just watch Hedwig and the Angry Inch again instead!!
Last edited by aalynn88; 01-13-2013 at 06:27 PM.
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Broad brush? There are different levels of gender dysphoria. Those who are tortured by having a male body, whose male bodies are diametrically opposed to their genders and for whom transition is a do or die situation, are the people who will transition[*]. My SO has mild gender dysphoria. S/he is not tortured by having a male body. S/he knows that s/he is not a woman. S/he is not transsexual and s/he will not transition, no matter how appealing the thought has been at various times in her life. She is not a male either.
[*] - Edited after Kathryn's post, transition meaning to align the body to internal gender. And not to "cross over" to the other gender, to "become" a woman. A TS is already a woman.
Last edited by ReineD; 01-13-2013 at 06:33 PM.
Reine
Um, right. Sorry, but you seem to be the only one who thinks so.
No, I don't get it. THAT's the point you're clear on? That you're a female impersonator? A pre-op *******? An extreme crossdresser? A non-op transman born with a male body that needs to be surgically un-corrected?
I suppose anyone can define anything in any way they find convenient. Oh, I cannot stress strongly enough how desperately you need therapy!
I've gone to find myself. If I should return before I get back keep me here to wait for me so I don't go back out and miss myself when I return.
Last edited by aalynn88; 01-13-2013 at 08:57 PM.
Lynn. I've been defending you on this thread BUT you need to continue this OUTSIDE the Transsexual Forum.
You've just said you're the opposite of a Transsexual so please, take it somewhere more appropriate?
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oky dok im done here
Damn right you're done, thread closed.
And don't you come in this section again with your
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