Frederique, while I'm not into women's clothing for the same reasons you are, I certainly would not think of you as an approximation of anything. You are what you are, and what you are is lovely. I generally do not question what people are doing. I accept it and move on with whatever it is I am doing (and as a history student, I am often thinking about what people used to do :D). I think it's ok for people to raise questions though. I have one friend who knows about my "cross dressing" and my gender identity. He is perfectly accepting and asks no questions, but I would welcome questions if he had any. It is an attempt at understanding if asked politely and earnestly, and I would be happy to try and answer.

I also wish there was more respect. I wish people could just be respectful and accepting in general. As long as people are not harming themselves or others, what they do should be respected. I wish I could go to my classes and my workplace in women's clothing. I wish I could go to church in women's clothing. I want to talk to the females I encounter during my day about makeup, hair, nail polish, clothing, etc. I believe such a world is possible. We must push for understanding and open a dialogue with people who are not like us for this to be possible. Feminists, lesbians, and gays have been doing quite well at that, and we can learn from them. Of course, there will always be people who will not be accepting. Like with such things as slavery in the past, the many proponents of inequality can eventually become the stubborn few.