It's so complicated. I have never understood people that judge other people for their gender, race, whatever, and have always been clear about it. My husband's family is very catholic and very judgmental - I even suffer through some of his gay jokes when we get together with them - thinking all along "if you only knew!" At any rate - while I have a very open mind about this, I am attracted to men - not women. (There is some curiosity, but it's very likely of the try anything once variety sort of thing, and that's that - who knows - haven't really gone there.) Even if the attraction was stronger - my husband as a girl.... 6'3 - football build, massive (sexy - except for a girl) arms does NOT make an attractive girl. Doesn't stop me from buying him things, but the truth is he will never pass. Even should he go the hormone route, I can't see it. Also, when he is dressed he is NOT the lover that I married. Much more ME focused. Which as it is becoming more frequent, is becoming a problem for me.
I have read a great deal about gender issues, (been lurking on this site for some time in fact) and it seems the main reasons wives leave later on do so not because of the actual dressing itself, but because of their husband's selfish behaviors - compulsive buying fem clothing that the family can't afford, cheating with both men and women, not honoring boundaries, etc etc.
I will admit that when I'm truly p o 'd at him and listing his faults in my head, "and he's a cross dresser too" does come at the end of the list - but that's because it's the least important.
Sorry if this was rambling...
