... IMO, they were making a subconscious choice that the crossdressing was more important to them than any relationship with a GG ...
I'm afraid I must disagree with you here, Reine. Some choose not to date for various reasons. Not dating was one of the ways I kept myself somewhat safe.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.