Never forget that it can be hard just simply being human, Kathryn.
And if I am indeed but merely playing girl, I do not consider that to be easy, either. In fact, I do not consider anything I have done over the past year and a half or so to be easy. To be certain, playing man is becoming harder, less palatable, and more untenable with each passing month.
Yes, you have been there, done that, and know that which you speak about. But you were not always this way. True, you worked very hard to make your life work, and you apparently have done a bang up job. Don't forget, though, what's it's like to be one of us when we seek support and answers from one such as you. Tough love certainly has it's place in this forum, but no one person here is the end-all be-all of all things tranny.