The Gender Gestapo: Still Lurking

[Tracii G]

I never care what they think I just go to the closest fitting room.
I sure as hell hope the cams are not peering in the dressing room but I'm sure they are.
I came out of the dressing room at a Kohl's store with a skirt and top and an older lady was going in the room next to mine.She glared long and hard at me and said that is disgusting.
I said yeah the top looked cuter on the rack I hope you have better luck.
My SA friend was laughing at me the whole way out into the store,she said OMG that lady looked pissed huh? You ready to try on the other stuff I picked out?
We both head back in and the lady comes out. Now the SA is telling me " girl these are going to be soo cute on you let me see each outfit now no cheating sugar".
My guess is we blew that ladies mind.

[Eryn]

...I came out of the dressing room at a Kohl's store with a skirt and top and an older lady was going in the room next to mine.She glared long and hard at me and said that is disgusting.
I said yeah the top looked cuter on the rack I hope you have better luck.

There is some danger to this. Pushing the buttons of people in this older lady's mindset has the danger of turning a moment of personal discomfort into an occasion to pick up a pen and tell her legislator an exaggerated story about the horrible transvestite that accosted her in a dressing room. That's where stupid ideas like the Arizona legislation come from.

[ReineD]

That's odd. I thought that Macy's was a staunch supporter of LGBT rights and their policy was to allow transgenders in the correct changing rooms.

http://www.care2.com/causes/one-mill...bt-policy.html

http://www.macys.com/campaign/sitelets/pride/index.jsp

Maybe you would have been better off trying on the women's clothes in the women's changing room.

And maybe the security person thought there were women using the men's changing room, which might have made some men feel uncomfortable. :p

[LoriFlores]

I have had positive experiences at Macy's as well. Although I have found that shopping their on line site ensures better selection of the styles and sizes that I'm looking for (even though I wear a commonly found size 7 regular...). I just stopped by today and found nothing that I was looking/hoping for. On-line works for me...

[cupcake]

Sorry, but think you are reading way to far into this. One they had something that would typically be perceived out of the norm with women's clothing in the men's fitting room. You also stayed that this fitting room is typically unattended. The more likely conclusion that this loss prevention guy is making is that a female is taking clothing to an unattended area to try something. you also state tha all he said into the radio was he had a bunch of women's and junior's clothing in the men's fitting room. I could understand if he had said something unprofessional or derogatory.

As far as being detained by this loss prevention guy in the future you probably don't need to worry about that. I don't know about Macy's but every retail job I've done the burden of proof that the store's procedures need you to have is so great it's almost not worth trying to catch people. The risk of a lawsuit from a detention and accusation just is not worth it in many cases. If he is wrong and does detain you he'll more than likely not have a job after that.

[alwayshave]

I as well, don't think the incident was anti anybody, but more a question about why clothes were taken from one section of the store to another. As to stores being afraid of law suits, I walked out of a CompUSA years ago where there is a security guard at the door and we have the following exchange:

SG: Can I look in you bag?
Me: No. (Mind you I had just walked away from the register not 15 feet from him where I purchased one item)
SG: I have to look in your bag.
Me: No you don't. (I start to walk past him, he starts to reach for me.)
Me: Touch me and I will own this store and have you arrested.
SG: What?
Me: Touch me and I will have you arrested for battery and sue the store for unlawful restraint.
SG: Wait here I need to get my manager. (I start to walk to my car)
SG: You have to wait.
Me: No, I don't.

The manager catches up with me in the parking lot and apologizes.

[Jenny Gurl]

I came out of the dressing room at a Kohl's store with a skirt and top and an older lady was going in the room next to mine.She glared long and hard at me and said that is disgusting. I said yeah the top looked cuter on the rack I hope you have better luck.
My SA friend was laughing at me the whole way out into the store,she said OMG that lady looked pissed huh? You ready to try on the other stuff I picked out?
We both head back in and the lady comes out. Now the SA is telling me " girl these are going to be soo cute on you let me see each outfit now no cheating sugar".
My guess is we blew that ladies mind.

Thanks, your story made my day. Why some people think they have the right to pop off like that and ridicule someone else is beyond me. I'm glad you both put her in her place. I'm sure you both had fun with it.