I consider myself straight in that I (unfortunately) occupy a male body and I'm not attracted to male features in sex partners (though I've only had sex partners in fantasy), but someone having a small number of male features wouldn't prevent me from having sex with someone who seems basically female or feminine (though other things so far prevent me from having sex with anyone at all).Reine said: Also, consider this: the male sexual partner in sexual experience motivated by a femme fantasy would presumably be gay (straight men do not have sex with people who have penises), and this is quite a paradox for a hetero CDer who wants to feel like, and be seen as a woman.
For example, there's a video (at xvideos under "2 hermaphrodites") that shows two women who have penises as well as vaginas and they're having sex. It calls them hermaphrodites, but they look like attractive women who simply have penises. If I were having sex with either of them, the penis would likely be a slight annoyance, but it wouldn't be a deterrent. I wouldn't want her penis in my rectum, though I suppose I could adapt to accepting that if I were pressured enough and if it seemed harmless etc. On the other hand I think I'd be extremely reluctant to put my penis in someone else's rectum, no matter how much pressure was put on me, regardless if they were female or male. It just seems ridiculously gross and there are lots of gross things that I would not do sexually. (Actually, human and animal bodies have a number of gross features that I'd like to see genetically engineered away, or something like that. To me, the male body is especially gross or unattractive, unless it's feminized sufficiently.)
I think a lot of people may be a bit more flexible than that. For example, if I were on a deserted island with a cross-dresser, I think I'd soon adapt to accepting her as female, despite some male features, and I'd probably be happy for her to regard me as female as well and I'd do whatever I could to seem female. I still would be very reluctant to have anal or oral sex, but there are other places I'd be less reluctant to ejaculate on her and vice versa.He can only be with a gay man if he convinces himself that the man is straight. And so any emotional or romantic relationship closer than just the sexual experience would burst the bubble.
I feel that everything we know is consciousness and that physical existence is within consciousness (and not vice versa), so everything is somewhat illusionary anyway, so I don't think it matters much if we have fantasies about each other and role play each other's fantasies somewhat. (By the way, I think the most important aspect of consciousness is caring = love.)
