Originally Posted by
Briana90802
How can you do something intentionally to hurt someone if you did it before you knew them? Kinda like having a cat before a relationship and then your SO thinks you did it to hurt them because they're not a cat person. For me my SO was accepting but I never dressed in front of her completely. To do so would be a huge shock. I dressed a little here and there first. A top,then some jeans, a skirt and so on until she got use to it. It also helped me to adjust to being seen by her.
Personally, I would tell her that your CDing has nothing to do with her and everything about to do with you. It's about personal feelings and the need to express them outwardly. Many woman believe that it's a failing on their part, but of course it's not. Unfortunately people in general are very accepting of things like being gay or CDing, but then are very different when it happens to them. It's what I call the "not in my backyard" condition. People always want clean energy but when they want to install windmills in the neighborhood they suddenly hate the idea. Talk to her, find out what the real reason is she objects, most likely it's because of some irrational social reason. Perhaps she worried of what others will think of her if they find out about you. Also think about the real reason you dress. Reeeeaaallly think about it. If all else fails then do the "naked time" thing. For example, little kids go through a period where they want to be naked all the time. Of course they can't but you set aside time so that can fulfill that need and then they learn appropriate timing and then they grow out of it. Of course you won't grow out of it but it helps.
Hope this helps some.
