I am sorta out to my wife. She is ok with me wearing panties, but no other women's clothes. We don't talk about the rest of it. It was a couple years ago when we last talked about it and she made it clear she didn't like talking about my CDing, so I guess it is kinda DADT. But at that time all I had other than panties was 1 bra and a pair of pantyhose, and she wanted me to come clean about what I had. Now I have about 3 outfits. I do want to be more open about this, but it is a very difficult conversation to have.