Not making the rules...

[giuseppina]

Stepanie,

I agree with Greenie. It sounds like your wife is not happy about the peignoir. You disregard her feelings at your peril.

Greenie (or other GG willing to respond): Is the "fine" response really "I don't want to talk about it here and now, but you're treading on thin ice!"

[Sonia_cd]

First, do we get to see pics of the peignoir and happy you enjoyed it

Second, I don't claim to fully understand women but the one thing I've learnt is that whenever statements like that are made it is code for NO. I have to agree with Greenie on this I'm afraid. The other thing I've learnt is that there's a secret mental notepad into which this goes and boy is that one long term notepad! I would suggest you talk it through with her again but I don't know either of you to appreciate the dynamic you have and offer informed suggestions.

Sonia.

[Greenie]

Is the "fine" response really "I don't want to talk about it here and now, but you're treading on thin ice!"

For a lot of women yes... Its the phrase we use when we don't want to talk about it anymore. I have become really aware of myself and my reactions. I want to become a better communicator. In the past, I have been a user of FINE. Obviously some women are less petty. But most I have EVER met when using fine with any tone other than PURE indifference... Fine means bad things. Lol

F.I.N.E = Frustrated. Insecure. Neurotic. Emotional. (lol) but of course. There are times in which when we say fine... We really mean fine. So continue trying to read our minds. :eyeroll:

Us women are messed up creatures.

6 THINGS WOMEN SAY AND WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN

Don’t worry, I’m fine.
Translation: I’m not fine and I would like you to ask me what’s wrong, insist wholeheartedly that we discuss it while you hold my hand, look me in the eye and give me your undivided attention.

Do whatever you want.
Translation: Why can’t you just realize that I don’t approve of what you are going to do? I’d rather tell you to do whatever you want, but be ready to deal with my wrath later.

Do you love me?
Translation: I feel unloved, vulnerable and insecure. I need you to express your love for me right now.

Don’t worry; I’ll take care of it.
Translation: I really wish you would take care of it without me having to ask.

I’m just not in the mood (for sex).
Translation: Something else is bugging me, and I want you to ask me to talk about it. Or, I’m angry at you for something you did earlier. Or, I just want to cuddle.

Do I look fat?
Translation: I’m feeling fat and unattractive, so tell me I look great, that I’m beautiful and you have eyes for no other woman.

[BRANDYJ]

Have you ever heard the saying: " Give him just enough rope to hang himself?"
Translation: She could have meant she was not going to make up rules to govern my life with and what you wanted to wear was up to you. Push this thing to far and her comfort or toleration level might go south and with no warning tell you goodbye.
I suggest you talk and be honest with her and ask her to explain with honesty, exactly what she thinks and feels about it. I'd proceed with caution and show her how much you love her and appreciate her. Also be sure to let her see all your manly traits that attracted her to you to start with. To fem, to fast and showing to much of your fem side can be lengthening the rope to hang your self.

[linda allen]

I'm assuming the two of you sleep together so by you wearing a nightgown to bed you're involving her in something she may not want to be involved in. It think you would have done better to buy and wear a skirt around the house or something like that that doesn't involve her. Also, if you bought yourself a more expensive nightgown than what she has, she may resent that.

Two pieces of advice from me:
1) Slow down. Take it easy in small steps.

2) Tell her and show her how much you love her, especially when you move forward in your dressing. Buy her a very nice nightgown if she is into these things.

[Di]

[QUOTE She wasn't excited about it but said she was not going to make up rules to govern my life with and what I wanted to wear was up to me.QUOTE]
Well for me I also say....it is up to my partner to wear whatever they want.And I mean that.
BUT
The key thing I read ....She wasn't excited about it but......
I really hope you both open up the lines of communication between you both. Because if I am reading it correctly she acted like that did not sound appealing to her but wanted to say what she thought she should.
Because in the long run...you do not want
You thinking OMG I am going to wear my beautiful Oscar de' Larente peignoir set
and your wife thinking OMG shes going to wear that %&#@&$@ Oscar de Larente peignoir set :brolleyes::Angry3:

Just saying...talk find out. Maybe tell her how you felt and ASK her to tell you how she feels about it.