Porn Addiction, Rebooting & Crossdressing

[Julie Gaum]

Some of these posts are getting off the OP's quest for help to abstain from porn. Further, some are getting dogmatic based on their own experiences rather than findings from properly qualified research on subjects that have little bearing on this specific problem. Most, however, do agree that porn and CDing are seperate issues that became intertwined by those seeking solutions (orgasims or other goals). Julia, we also agree that dressing is something that can never be kicked out of your life for long. I strongly disagree with those that say that porn addiction is NOT similar to drug and liquor addiction. As opposed to CDing these are all maladies that can be cured, some faster than others. But with resolve and courage you will win. Don't get sidetracked in the process.
Julie

[ReineD]

Most, however, do agree that porn and CDing are seperate issues that became intertwined by those seeking solutions (orgasims or other goals). Julia, we also agree that dressing is something that can never be kicked out of your life for long. I strongly disagree with those that say that porn addiction is NOT similar to drug and liquor addiction. As opposed to CDing these are all maladies that can be cured, some faster than others. But with resolve and courage you will win. Don't get sidetracked in the process.
Julie

I think a distinction needs to be made between men who use the crossdressing or the clothes strictly as a fetish, not dissimilar to using latex, angora, or any other type of fetish ... and individuals who dress due to an inner need to express femininity. I know that we don't have a lot of fetishists here because the forum rules prohibit graphic sexual content, but judging by the plethora of trans-porn/dating/chat sites, there must be a significant number of CDers who do not dress for identity reasons.

I don't know how many teenage boys begin dressing for other reasons than sexual gratification, so for young men who have not yet evolved to dressing for identity reasons, porn and the CDing may in fact be linked?

here is a shortened video of the youtube series a posted. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82...layer_embedded

Julia, this is a great link! The speaker explains the chemical process of porn/sexual/other addictions and I think that early on and at the chemical level, there can be a strong correlation between porn use and crossdressing for sexual gratification. I've inserted references to the crossdressing in brackets below, that correlate to the porn issues.

At around the video's 14 minute mark, the speaker says that younger men are not regaining erectile health as quickly as older men, when they stop watching porn. This seems counter-intuitive until he explains that the brains of boys who watch frequent porn are at their peak of dopamine production and neuro-plasticity. This is a time when boys are most vulnerable to addiction. There is also another risk: by adulthood, teen brains gradually strengthen heavily used circuits ... the circuits formed by watching porn, (or crossdressing for sexual gratification), and brains also prune back unused circuits. So according to the speaker, by age 22 a guy's sexual tastes can be like deep ruts in his brain which is problematic if he has escalated to extreme porn, or porn that no longer matches his sexual orientation (or frequent dressing for sexual arousal).

So although porn use and crossdressing for identity reasons may not be linked, I wonder if both do follow the same addictive process IF the crossdressing starts early enough (teenage years) and with a major focus on sexual gratification.

[mary something]

if you consider this an addiction then lets try and see how to heal from it. You enjoy crossdressing and looking at porn and it always ends up with you masturbating correct? It is not uncommon for crossdressers to do this. It's obvious that if you are masturbating then you are aroused right? If you are looking at porn then it makes you more aroused, so that explains why the porn element is there right? You want to become more aroused.

Obviously everyone masturbates to have an orgasm, but beside that what are you getting out of this behavior? What does this cycle of behavior provide for you? How do you feel after you've had an orgasm? What need does having an orgasm supply besides just the physical sensation of pleasure?

Perhaps the key to managing this behavior so that it is not running your life involves understanding what you get out of it?

[whowhatwhen]

You know what else isn't productive yet is accepted by society?

Getting drunk
Playing video games
Working on your car (I'm sorry, no one cares about your car - please stop talking about it)
Watching TV

People here put just as much, maybe even more effort into their female appearance than others do with their hobbies so I don't see how it's not constructive.
Why not take it a step further? Want to quit porn? Smash your computer!

If you have an addictive personality then something else will just replace porn, just get professional help rather than trying to lone wolf it.
You may as well be telling an alcoholic to "just stop drinking lol", addictions need professional intervention.

Stopping crossdressing may help in the short run but she'll find other excuses to run off to pornland and lots of evidence points to the fact she'll be right back.
How many purge regret threads have we had here anyway? The answer is TONNES!

[Julia Roze]

if you consider this an addiction then lets try and see how to heal from it. You enjoy crossdressing and looking at porn and it always ends up with you masturbating correct? It is not uncommon for crossdressers to do this. It's obvious that if you are masturbating then you are aroused right? If you are looking at porn then it makes you more aroused, so that explains why the porn element is there right? You want to become more aroused.

Obviously everyone masturbates to have an orgasm, but beside that what are you getting out of this behavior? What does this cycle of behavior provide for you? How do you feel after you've had an orgasm? What need does having an orgasm supply besides just the physical sensation of pleasure?

Perhaps the key to managing this behavior so that it is not running your life involves understanding what you get out of it?

pleasure, that's all

[Norah_joy]

Nicole, you just posted what I was thinking. Too many threads pull us apart rather than bring us together. Always somebody who thinks they're a "good crossdresser" while others dress for all the wrong reasons. Too many Judge Judys, in my opinion.

[mary something]

pleasure, that's all

ok, I would hope so What do you do right aftwerwards? Do you go back to boy mode or stay in girl mode? I only ask because it is an effective method of making your mind feel as male as it usually will.

[Julia Roze]

ok, I would hope so What do you do right aftwerwards? Do you go back to boy mode or stay in girl mode? I only ask because it is an effective method of making your mind feel as male as it usually will.

I stay in girl mode for a bit. Probably hop on omegle lol