Again... we're starting to see some of the deception / lying by omission debate. I agree... what's wrong is wrong. Not having told your spouse years ago or not telling a perspective spouse in this day and age is wrong. However it is understandable and more importantly forgivable. The whole attitude we as CDers face that we lied and because of it... we deserve whatever our spouses give us in return as a result of the omission when our spouses find out... I call BS on that.
If a divorce ultimately happens, then I do not believe and I agree with others above that that the CDing was not/ is not the sole cause. Especially for those of who grow up in a time before the internet and did not suspect or know that we really weren't that different or not the only ones. Knowledge is everything. Most all of us armed with the knowledge and support we have today in 2013 would have done things differently 15, 20 or 30+ years ago.
I apologize in advance to the OP and the moderators for getting off topic.
DL
