CD'ers and LGBT

[PaulaQ]

I'm going to disagree that you should be treated as a cisgender woman. I think you should be treated as a woman....period. No qualifiers, no conditions. You are a woman now, you will be a woman in the near future, and you will continue being a woman in the far future.

OK, this I agree with, thanks!

FWIW, I'm considering, depending on how things go, not living in stealth. I want to keep my friends and family in my life, such as I can - many of them are being accepting. Yeah, my marriage is a goner, but my wife will hopefully stay a friend, given some time to get over her hurt. (I need that time too!) It's a lot to ask them to keep such a secret for me.

Also, the idea of not hiding so much is appealing to me. And while I don't intend to walk around with a sign saying "I'm trans!", maybe I'll be able to stand up and represent in my own quiet way. Because invisibility may make us feel more authentic - of this I have no doubt, and I don't question anyone who'd choose that - but if no one knows about us, how do we ever advance?

[Leona]

but if no one knows about us, how do we ever advance?

Well, I don't think transitioning is in my future, but I certainly don't hide or try to be invisible. I may not be ready to go out 100% en femme, but I'm out and making noise.

"Be dangerous and unpredictable, and make a lot of noise." --Anthrax

[kellycan27]

My own personal opinion is that the LGBT community doesn't see cross dressers as a serious ally in the fight. There are a lot of cross dressers who are in the closet and don't want to be outed. There are those who can cross dress and change back into and enjoy their male life who feel no need to be represented, and there are those who are embarrassed, afraid or ashamed and don't want to rock their own boat. Just to name a few. It reminds me of the story of " the little red hen" everyone wants a piece of the bread, but nobody ( at least not enough) want to put the work into baking it. :2c: