First, his honesty and your honesty is important. You have cleared the air a bit. Second, you are not married. No kids. Great. A clean slate. Now, the tough part. The two of you must sit down and discuss HIS needs and your needs and YOUR boundaries, etc. The problem with being with one of us, and I say it is a problem, is that your feelings and his needs may change over time. A lot of questions need to be asked and answered honestly.
Most importantly, HE will be what he will be. Your acceptance won't somehow make him TS, etc. Our state of mind is way beyond anyone else's influence. If you can afford it, get a few sessions of couples counseling to sort things out if you feel you need it. I am not suggesting you do, but a neutral third party can help you navigate some murky waters.
A few questions you must ask him. Does he plan on going out? Is there a sexual component to it? Does he want to fully dress with a femme name? How does he feel about being a CD? A tough question, but a fair question is this: has he ever thought about transition?
You see how these waters get tough to navigate. If he is happy dressing at home with or without makeup and doesn't want or desire to go out, etc., then I think you two can work out time for him to enjoy this. Peggy Rudd's book My Husband Wears My Clothes is a great little read. It is a bit dated now, as it was published over twenty years ago, but some of the concepts are important. The late Joann Roberts also wrote a tome Coping with Crossdressing. Check them out. This forum is filled with many great contributors with great advice as well.
You have found a great place to start.....hugs, Melissa.
