Linda, I have so many different butt/hip pad combos. Some home made, some purchased. I never leave home without one set or another! I have found sliding them and my panty cinchers down to go potty is much easier and more efficient than trying to fit thru a small slit or hole. And, with practice u can get them back in place ok.
I believe one of your problems may be your breast forms. I adjust the size of my pads to that of my breast forms. And, adjust my forms to the outfit I'm wearing! Try wearing smaller forms and you should have an easier time matching them to your pads.
Do NOT buy waist cinchers without shoulder straps if u plan on wearing one for very long. They always slide down, if not roll down! Or, buy one that has plastic boning that keeps it up. Like my favorite one!
