Am I being unreasonable? (Warning: my first post and my whole backstory, long post)

[jennarac]

I think we are going for a ride in this thread. Jenna states:
- she has been CDing for 18 years but started wearing skirts, stockings and high heels about 5 years ago (the same time she met her wife)
- she has cut out her bad behaviors, doesn't want to be a liar or cheater anymore
- her marriage is OK even though she can communicate better with a married woman she found on Craigslist
- she posted T4M pictures on-line which was OK with her wife
- her wife offered to stop having sex with other partners if Jenna stops crossdressing
- his wife has flings with other guys which is OK with Jenna, actually exciting
- but his wife cannot handle when he sleeps with other women
- she still has a healthy sex life with her wife
- etc, etc, etc

If all true, and if Jenna and her wife are OK with their marriage - except for the CDing - then there is only one issue to address - Jenna's crossdressing.

Just to clarify a few of those points:
-I have been CDing for 18 years and have been wearing those things throughout that time. It did not begin coincident with the time I met my wife.
-my marriage is doing well, because, except for the CD issue which she would rather avoid talking and thinking about, she and I have great lines of communication. The friend I made on Craigslist is just that. Yes I can communicate well with her, especially on topics about CD and my wife, but it is not in lieu of talking to my wife. My wife is not being neglected or lost attention due to my new friend.
-I posted T4M pictures on-line for the feedback, for my own vanity really. My wife did and does not know about that, but that activity has also stopped.

The other points were accurate.
Just to clarify, as someone mentioned earlier, the crossdressing and her sexual freedom are not tit for tat. She is not comfortable with my CDing, whereas I have no problem at all with her occasional dalliances. And the issues are unrelated.

But ultimately yes, the only issue to address is the reason I came to this forum, my wife's ability to cope with my crossdressing. To see if I was being unreasonable in my requests of her. Should I try to be more considerate of her feelings on the issue and try and place it to the side? Or is something like once a month when she is not home a reasonable request that I should hope she can try to deal with?

I do appreciate the helpful advice I have received.

-Jenn