Heh, I didn't see you edited your post.Originally Posted by ErinSassyPants
We had the discussion, and she agreed that top/bottom was better terminology for us. She also expressed appreciation that I treat her in an egalitarian sorta way when we're in bed together, which led to her thanking me for checking up on her (we can get pretty wild) and make sure she's still "in" with me, and how we both suggest position changes pretty much at the same time the other is thinking we should change... you know, stuff like that. Finding a position where we can see each other's faces, whether it's missionary or something facing a mirror, you know, stuff where we can make eye contact. Hell, last night we started with me in skirt, tank top, bra and forms, and ending with me completely naked whipping her with my bra. She's still tickled about that.
And even with the whipping (which we do pretty consistently 2-3 times a month), there's no dom/sub thing going on. And in that discussion, she told me she likes that there's no dom/sub thing happening, that it really is about the pleasure for both of us. (Interesting note, she had turned her head back to look at me and saw the bra coming in and ducked reflexivelyShe was still laughing about it today).
Then we talked about how she can be quite aggressive and/or assertive, and I suggested she may enjoy trying on a domme role. She still has hangups with commands, so I suggested she try to manager-type command, you know "It would be nice if you swept the floor". We got distracted making fun of managers then, so that part of the conversation has yet to conclude.
