You are definitely not the Lone Ranger, nor Lone Rangerette here. I am in a similar situation as you are. But in one way or another I have always fought this demon when I was not with some one. I am a very social person and need that regular daily contact with someone very special to me. I have slowly learned over the years that when I really look, nothing ever seems to work. Then when I am in a relationship it all changes, and let's say that I see more opportunities. I jokingly attribute to the lack of seeing relationship opportunities to my maybe not so literal drooling when I find someone interesting. I.e. I am better off keeping myself busy and happier doing others things that I enjoy (Thank you CDing for entering my lonely life!) and trying not to think about "is she the one?"
I have fully embraced this side of me, probably to the detriment to other things that I enjoyed doing and can still do when this side of me lets me do it. Having so much fun as Allie and just being my almost normal social butterfly self when out has opened up so many opportunities for me. Now my issue is my new fear of getting so involved that I will need to tell that special her about this side of me. My dream situation is to meet someone while out dressed, and that has happened, but my tendency to find perfection, i.e. I see all the flaws as well as the beauty, also interferes.
So, my recommendation is to get your butt out there doing whatever it is that you get excited about, sports, dressing, theater, other hobbies, be yourself in personality and have fun and just as important for others, be a fun person to be around. We all have our baggage and issues. We just do not need to share that with everyone until the appropriate moment. Good luck.
