Thanks everyone, for your answers so far! It's actually beginning to make sense. :p
Dee3, CDers are pronounced as men because this is their gender identity. If a person were to identify both with male and female characteristics, they'd be gender non-conforming (or gender fluid). And if they identified completely with the opposite sex, they'd be transsexuals.
Why don't women want anything to do with CDers? Some do (like me and other GGs in the forum), and some don't. I think it's a question of having traditional vs. non-traditional values, and also a question of education about this combined with time and exposure. Many women start out non-supportive and then change over time.
OK ... back to the thread topic!
