Well, good for you, Victoria! My brother is homosexual, too, as is his husband.
(Neither of them are CDs...as far as I know.)
- Amy
Well, good for you, Victoria! My brother is homosexual, too, as is his husband.
(Neither of them are CDs...as far as I know.)
- Amy
Amy Gale Ruth Bowersox (nee Tapie) - "Be who you are, and be it in style!"
Member, Board of Trustees, Gender Identity Center of Colorado
aka Amelia Storm - Ms. Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2018-2019, Miss Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2015-2016
All folks are included in my world, welcome aboard....except for you NY Yankees fans. I hate A-Rod, and the NY Yankees.
Some gay guys like a rod every now and then.
... I'll let myself out.
I wish I was gay. I would much prefer being a dude who likes other dudes instead of being a poor old sap that prefers to dress a female. Such is life.![]()
What can I say when I have a man I fantasize about women and when I'm with a woman I dream of men. I am probably more asexual or pan sexual, I am mainly interested in the person not their gender. Sex can be earth shaking with either if you care about them.
hugs rita
Dressing is not a choice.
Its a passion.
I don't know what to call myself. I can only say, in the immortal words of Popeye " I Yam what I Yam". I prefer to be with other CD's, sexually (and also platonically). If I'm to be labeled as a homosexual, then so be it.
That said, it's a shame that we have to resort to pigeon holing ourselves. After all, we are just a bunch of different minded people who, for some of us, are just trying to make our way in this world without being judged for who we are when we should be judged for what we do instead. By that I mean, what we accomplish in life, what good we do and hopefully a positive legacy, whether recognized by many or just those who knew us.
Regardless, Mystic Lady, or Victoria, I'm happy for you that this revelation or self awareness of yours, whether new or not, has given you some peace of mind. Good for you.
I sometimes think I'm such a fairy:fairy1:
Sexuality 101.
You are male, and you are sexually attracted to males only, whether dressed or not, you're homosexual.
You are male, and you are sexually attracted to women only, whether dressed or not, you're heterosexual.
You are male, and you are sexually attracted to females or males , whether dressed or not, you're bisexual.
End of course.
What is all the fuss about?????
If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got!
Perfectly honest response, thank you. There is nothing wrong with one's sexual preferences whatever they are. I have a huge problem with the "Majority of cd's are straight" crap "they" and my ex tried to get me to believe. And I did for a while until I really got to know this community and discovered the truth for myself. Pretty sure the majority of cd's are not exactly straight either. Now that I know the truth I can make informed choices about my partners.
Hi Allie, the way I see it, as a man, if you like only women then you're normal in societies eyes. If you like men, also, then you're a homosexual. Simple really.
Hi Reine, I've learned that, my wife does not need too know everything. She can't handle the truth, as I've learn. Just like my dressing. Why, disrupt her own little perfect world. I will do my best too keep shielded from this awful(I'm sure that would be her thoughts) truth.
Hi Corrine, I'm sure in a few years, some "brainiac" will start the ball rolling on that. you watch
Hi Paula, Yay for you Sweetie.
Yes, super minion. I will follow your orders.You know Lori, Minions, are really cute.:D
Natalie, I'll bet you a penny, that Arod is a closeted Homosexual
Wise words from wise Girl.:D
Kitty, that's the reason for my post. You know, I was thinking the same. I mean, if you fantasize about have intimacy w/ a crossdresser knowing what they have then, your a Homosexual, in my book. You don't even have too live the experience to be. If you think it, you're doing it. A very wise man taught me that. I can guarantee that the only men that don't think it are men that don't have access too it. So, I think it, so I want too live it. Sorry, that's just me.I bet, a lot of guys don't share their deep fantasies w/ their wives.
Whoa whoa whoa.
IMHO Crossdressers are definitely a bit queer but that's a whole different can of worms than being gay or even BI.
Gay men are attracted to men, masculinity.
They generally have no interest in crossdressers because they're not looking for femininity, well, except if you're into feminine men but that's different.
The point is that gay men are attracted to men unconditionally, there are no rules or special circumstances driving what they're attracted to.
I wouldn't even call 2 "straight"/queer CDs having sex gay because both are incapable of having a real homosexual relationship. If you're not attracted to the vanilla male form then the whole thing breaks down pretty quick.
Why is it that straight, cis people are obsessed with assigning a sexual orientation to people?
Why do you feel you have to share this revelation with us we don't matter, tell those who do matter your wife and kids.
I have no arguments with the general statement that the majority of crossdressers are straight. The majority of men who crossdress do not go much further than wearing a few articles of feminine clothing, as well. In my experiences and observations since engaging in the local community is that the assumed high percentage of heterosexuality in crossdressing dwindles with those that are in the minority of crossdressing (those that do more than wear just clothing)
Jenn, although it's hard to separate the reality from the fantasy in all the "Do you want to be with men" threads, well over 50% of the respondents in those threads say they are attracted to men.
Homosexual means no attraction to women whatsoever though, in fact I imagine that many homosexual men are turned off with the thought of being with a woman, as are all the women who are not lesbian. But I just cannot comprehend how someone who was married all these years and has kids and whose body has not been altered with hormones and SRS, didn't realize an attraction to men before this, not even a slight one.
Mystic, how long have you known or suspected, and have you been with a man yet to test it out? Or is starting this thread a creative way to let others know what you've been up to? :p
But, if you are sure that you are homosexual and it will stay this way, then again congratulations on having achieved the clarity. We had a thread a while back asking how the homosexual CDers were doing with partners, and the news was not good there either. I was astounded to discover that homosexual men generally have difficulty accepting feminine men just as much as GGs.
Here's the thread, if you're interested. I think it's always a good idea to know what we're up against, in terms of averages: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ends+doing+how
Reine
I have to agree that there is a lot of dancing around the "Homosexual label" If your a guy dressed as a woman and then have sex with another guy who is dressed as a woman well... It is what it is
Sure, they are lesbians, right?Originally Posted by ruthie801
In the crazy mixed up world of gender identity, gender relative terms are not actually very helpful...
Lots of gay people come out later in life, btw. I go to a center every week where they have classes on how to do this. There are plenty of gay men and women who are married to a partner of the opposite sex. The acceptance of gays and lesbians has come a long way, but coming out as gay has many of the same issues as coming out as trans - it is an excellent way for some people to alienate almost every single person they know, including their families. It's better now than it used to be, but there is still puh-lenty of reason to hide this from everyone in your life, including yourself.
Look - if you are a heterosexual cisgendered individual, your life is just a LOT simpler, and that's the truth. The further away from the "norm" that you are, the more likely it is that some people won't accept you, and if those people are your family or friends, well, that's just devastating, and is plenty of motivation for people to stay closeted or even to deny to themselves what their sexuality is.
How are people missing that in order to be gay you need to find the same sex attractive all the time, it's not conditional on dress or whether or not it's a full moon.
"Not straight" is not the same as being gay, two "straight" crossdressers are probably not going to have a well functioning gay relationship because in their natural state they won't be attracted to each other.
I think this oversimplifies the matter, a LOT. There are straight people who've once in a while had a same sex relationships. There are gay people who've had opposite sex relationships at times. (I'm not talking people who are bisexual either.) I believe sexual orientation is also a spectrum. I mean lookit - there are a LOT of gay parents. How do you think THAT happened, exactly?Originally Posted by whowhatwhen
As for the people on these threads who post "attracted to men while CDing," my bet is most of 'em are actually straight. You can fantasize about the same sex and not be gay.
What I meant is that it's impossible to have a relationship with someone you're not attracted to.
If you're only attracted to a guy when he's crossdressed then chances are any attempt at a relationship would fail.
Lets just settle this peacefully.
We are all SEXUAL, In some form or fashion whichever suits you best. Lets leave the labels up to the clothing manufactures not the people wearing them. So some of us like girls, some of us like guys, some of only like guys if they are dressed. So if we get rid of all the labels then no one is right and no one is wrong. Yeah now we can all be happy together![]()
Erica
@corinne - ok, gotcha, and i agree with you on that
What I seem to be seeing by a lot of these responses is that it's more preferable to be a lesbian (two T-Girls) than a gay male (T-Girl and guy). I'm not getting that.![]()
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
Hmm. And you say "I am a Homosexual"? Don't you think that will put a lot of strain on your marriage?
Maybe so, but I really am heterosexual. I love to make love with my wife; it's the most enjoyable and fulfilling thing I can think of. Maybe under the right circumstances I could be attracted to a man, but it hasn't happened yet and I'm over forty...