This is one of the reasons I will not even go to a local support group. There are a lot of people who believe that we should all be 'out' in order to further the cause of forcing society to accept that we are part of it; and in their minds, they're doing it for our own good. But while in the long view that may be true, not all of us want to be martyrs to the cause, sacrificing out own lives for the better future of other's. In other words, I gave at the office. I gladly preach tolerance for all gender varieties, not just our own. And while I appear to the general public as an average straight person, I believe that makes it even more important that other average straight people will follow my lead. After all, it's easy to figure out that a person of a minority group has an agenda when they try to get you to accept them; but when it appears that someone has nothing to gain by supporting that minority group the he is not a part of, it has even more of an impact. Feel free to disagree, but that's how it works.