Can cross dressing alone really end a relationship?

[ReineD]

We're all debating whether the "crossdressing" can be the sole reason to end a relationship or not. So it occurs to me that the question is rather, what aspect of the crossdressing are we all talking about exactly, over which a wife might leave a husband.

Is it just putting on the clothes occasionally in private? Underthings? All-out dressing?

Is the husband wanting to go full steam ahead shortly after his wife has just found out?

Are there tell-tale signs in guy mode, i.e, plucked eyebrows, shaved body, long fingernails, long hair, pierced ears, no facial hair, etc?

What about wanting to go out in public and possibly outing the CDer (and the family)? Are there a lot of "oopsies" ... "Ooops, I didn't know our child was going to come to our bedroom because of a nightmare tonight, and see me in my nightie". "I didn't think your family would see my pic on facebook", "Well, it's not my problem if Janie's friend's parents won't allow their child over anymore for sleepovers."

What about the preoccupation with it ... does the husband chomp at the bit waiting for his wife to go away, making her feel unwanted?

The money ... how does it affect the budget and the closet space at home?

What about the openness about it all ... is there hiding and either non-disclosure or lying?

What about the time involved online, either looking & shopping, here, on meet-up sites, looking at T-porn?

And sex ... is it all about the CDer being femme in the bedroom? Does he have fantasies about being with men and the wife senses that he isn't all there when they have sex? Does he avoid having sex with wife? Does he go ahead and have sex with men behind the wife's back (a few people have said they do this here).

What about moods ... is he resentful when they have to go somewhere in guy mode and does he show it? Is there depression? Anger? Is there drinking involved?

Is he telling his wife that he feels he might be a woman and he doesn't know if he will want to transition or not?

Etc.

I have a feeling that as usual, everyone has a different level in mind, when they think of the proverbial last straw.