Miki, I wish you and your wife the best of luck in getting through this. Please let us all know how the conversation goes.
It did not go well and I won't being seeing our 39th. She can live with my depression and other health issues, but can't live with another woman. There is no animosity from me on her decision, only sadness. She is a good woman and my best friend.
When writing the next chapter in your life, start with a pencil and eraser - my first page as Miki is full of eraser marks.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.