AllieSF. Thanks for taking the time to articulate your point. I agree 100% with what you wrote.
Lucy,
Maybe she started cheating on you in the beginning because she felt your occasional, but cloaked CDing was, in her mind, like you had an affair? If this is true, this points more to CDing as being the reason for the divorce. Al the other behavior on her side was some sort of coping mechanism that just further undermined your marriage. Sorry to hear that she used your dressing against you in a very mean way after the divorce. This is why we don't reveal our true selves to just anyone. We know that they could or might use it against us. I hope you are living a happy life now and find that special person to share all of you with.
