well, I am still going to stand by what I am not so successfully attempting to say... is that if the choice was hyper masculine or feminine, as in the only choice hypothetically, then a majority of women will choose a over b if both had decent personalities. It is for the many of us who have wives and gf's here our personalities that get us through and we continue on with our relationships. Granted, there are some women who do prefer effeminate men, but they are in the minority.
I would even say that there is a greater number of women who bounce around from one d bag masculine guy to another, getting cheated on and treated poorly but then immediately take a pass on a fem guy or one who dresses and acts so occasionally, regardless of his personality. There are more women like that then there are who will opt for a Cder who has a great personality.
My wife grew up in a good but very patriarchal setting. Very christian based. And her choice of men up to me has been predominantly the more masculine type. Burned pretty much every time by them. Even then, she still struggles with the fact I CD. Even though she does not see it, it really does not effect her to any extent, and what changes she has seen in me are not major, just being more free with the femininity I do have. I am still pretty much the same guy she married. It is still a major struggle for her at times. She has told me she is not certain she would have had a relationship with me if she knew beforehand. At the time she had almost no knowledge of what real CD's are or can be anyway. I am also fairly certain that if it wasn't for how good our relationship is in all other areas, the CDing would have likely ended the relationship. She thought seriously about leaving me after I told her. I didn't even have a secret life, wardrobe, was a member here or at any other CD sites. I only told her I always had the desire and felt it was time for me to explore those desires. Just a handful of times where I would briefly wear some of her clothes. My wife is among the more open minded women overall too. Especially seeing as how she grew up.
