Now, I'm only hearing this from your point of view, but my understanding of this thread is your wife is not very empathic where other peoples viewpoints are involved. She has her family at the heart of her world, and doesn't need "hobbies" outside of that. All well and good, and I don't say that there is anything wrong with that, but she simply can't see your need for anything, beyond that. When you had time for hobbies, what was her attitude to them? If she was enthusiastic, or at least generous with allowing you time/money for them, that might indicate I'm on the wrong path, but if she tended to grumble about them, or complained about reasonable cost, it might be another indication that this is part of it. If she will "tolerate" but doesn't really accept that the need to dress is part of you, then it all starts to become a serious issue in her mind. You say English is not your first language, are you from an area where the traditional family is a very strong part of life? Perhaps with a strong religious component?
I am starting to think that this will be something that isn't going to get solved without an outside mediator. You're almost past the 10 posts limits, when you can send and receive private messages, hopefully one of the others in your area will know of a good therapist/counsellor.
Best wishes and good luck.
