I had been keeping my Cding completely secret from my wife for about a decade. Last week, though, I was called away from the laptop while on this site and I left the page open. At dinner the next evening, My wife of 30 years said, "We have to talk! I know your little secret". Amazingly, we had a very frank and open discussion for about an hour in which I assured her that my need to dress is not a sexual thing, that I still love her and desire her and that she should not feel threatened. We concluded the discussion with me promising not to ever allow myself to be photographed en femme (for fear of kids and grandkids seeing me on Youtube or Facebook) and that she has no interest in seeing me dressed and to not be seen dressed by family or friends. I understand and fully respect her concerns and I considered this a "good first step" in a journey of many small steps to gain her acceptance and maybe even her support. But that will take time and effort to work through.
Had I answered this question before that conversation, I would have supported just keeping my CD'ing in secret. But, now I am so very relieved that the genie is out of the bottle and, while I must live within constraints, I no longer live in fear of the unknown reaction, which had been my greatest concern. Recognizing that all wives and SO's will not react so calmly and objectively, I am now strongly in the corner of having "the talk" at some point. It has been so fruitful for me and I am now "free" to enjoy my dressing, at home, without fear of discovery.
