Where I am going with it is a couple of things. 1st, that what we read on here for some may sound great, and maybe one day we may get there... but currently that is not a good course of action to pursue, at least not yet anyway. And that I see a lot of instances where people on here are thinking only of themselves and their interests and desires. Sometimes, what we do and what we are can be a lot for people. And sometimes I see times where people push it in places it just doesn't need to be. Not everyone, but just that it happens on here frequently.
One of the things that are often said to S/O's... its just clothes, it doesn't make me a different person.... Ok, then if it is just clothes, than it should not be that big of a deal to slow it down sometimes, or choose a better time and place.