The nature of being femme (GGs also welcome)

[MatildaJ.]

If it's only our culture, then why do people like me need physical medicine (hormone therapy, surgeries, etc.) to transition? Why can't I just crossdress, sashay around the room, and adopt other societal ideas of women, (or even the rather exaggerated image of the same that exist in so many men's minds)?

Men certainly should be allowed to crossdress, sashay around the room, and adopt whatever other aspects that our society has termed feminine.

But given the rigid gender divide in our society, some people don't want to be men-who-do-stereotypically-feminine-things; they feel they belong on the female side of the rigid gender divide. That's fine with me. I just don't want all of us here putting any effort into reinforcing that rigid gender binary and insisting that's the way it has to be because of Nature and Biology.

Men tend to be hierarchical - there's a pecking order, and the further up it you go, the more intense the competition is.

LOL. Humans are hierarchical, Paula. If you don't see women that way, just wait.