WAH as one of the folks who did not "contribute anything" perhaps if you concentrate on expressing the questions clearly vice a lot of hyperbole leading up to it, I would not have responded. Keep it simple and you will get the audience you are looking for. For example:
Hi all. I am curious how many of you have gone out "en femme" to local LGBT friendly venues? If so, how did you know they were LGBT friendly venues? or words to that effect.
Hugs
Isha





