I think we can start by eliminating three practices that I see on this forum that have nearly driven some of us to suicide.
1. It's okay to disagree, but we shouldn't mis-gender someone, nor tell them that we don't feel sorry for you because you're a privileged white male, or tell you that you're not entitled to certain viewpoints just because you're a white male or grew up with male privilege, when in fact you're a MTF TS who happened to grow up with male privilege, or even a MTF CD who grew up with male privilege and is sick and tired of being male.
2. While engaging in fantasy about transition can be dangerous, we should never mis-gender someone, nor tell them that you're not a TS just because you're married or engaged in masturbatory cross-dressing or happen to have doubts about being trans, when in fact you're a MTF TS who happened to shove down your gender issues for decades because society told you that you are male and a freak for feeling like you're really a female.
3. While reality does happen and it bites, we shouldn't mis-gender someone, nor tell them that you're "Pollyanna" and being blind to reality, because we already face so much lack of support by the outside world that the last thing we need is lack of support from within our own community.
I would like to declare December 9 National Day of Rememberance of Suicides Caused from within the Trans Community.
If we're going to get equal rights within the world at large, we should stay united within our own community and be careful not to engage in practices that alienate members of our own community.
If you think there's lots of Pollyanna in this, then maybe you need to go get a life
